Published on 12, July, 2020
I moved alone to Warrington about five months ago. I got a stable job in a warehouse to secure my income. I plan to go to college next year. Everything seems to be fine but my social life is like a mess. I am new to this town so I tried to reach out to others to make some friends. One of my neighbours approached me and we ended up going to the police because of some inappropriate behaviours. At work, I faced some sexual harassments from coworkers. I have difficulties in trusting people as I couldn’t tell if they are just acting to be friendly while sticking a nose to your personal life. Shall I try to get a diagnosis from GP? How can I protect myself if some bad stuffs happen again?
**I would like to add one more thing. My ex-partner, he is also in the spectrum. He was an alcoholic and switched to vaping recently. It’s not possible for me to talk him out of substance abuse. He is a typical predator and abuser. He has not yet applied physical violence on me but already showed some signs. I don’t know what else I can do for him other than having him moved to a sharehouse with better living conditions and with fewer people. He originally lived in a small room like prison cells and being bullied by his housemates and possibly by the landlord as well.The relationship however didn’t end well. I had to cut contact with him before more bad stuffs happened. I wish to reach out for some community support for him when I still can. It’s hard to see someone like us also suffer. His family took good care of him before he came to uk. This is the sixth years now and he shows signs of depression with suicidal thoughts due to loneliness. He needs professional help but it’s out of my ability.He maybe a worker, yet he is the most educated man I have ever seen in the warehouse. Is there anything else I could do other than walk away?
Hi there, Sorry to hear that this stuff keeps happening to you - It can be really difficult to make friends in new places and unfortunatly bullying happens more frequently than most would want to know :(
I see that Desmond79 has already posted a link to a NAS branch in your area (Thanks Desmond79!) and I have have some links here for you that will hopefully help with the bullying at work:
We understand this is a very serious issue, and we would like to provide some information to help you. Firstly, you can find our guide on dealing with bullying here: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/bullying
If you would like some confidential advice and support, you may like to call the Bullying UK helpline on 0808 800 2222 or by visiting their website: https://www.bullying.co.uk
There is also help and advice for children, young people and parents on the Bullybusters website, along with details of their support helpline: https://www.bullybusters.org.uk/help_and_advice/
There is also a book called The Independent Woman's Handbook for Super Safe Living on the Autistic Spectrum by Robyn Steward - not sure if you identify with this but it might be a useful resource.
Best of luck,
SarahMod