Walking away

Education is hard at the best of times and the older you get the harder it becomes. That was how I found it. It often left me feeling exhausted, drained, brain beaten and needing more rest than it was given. There's so much pressure with education for people with autism. You have the pressures of a big noisy school, college or university and then there's the pressures of the vast amount of people surrounding you and fitting in suddenly is something you feel you need to do. And then there's the pressures of the work. Good grades are what you're after but it takes so much to get them. All the reading in the world didn't make it any easier and I read a lot to try to learn to manage everything! I feel for you and your son. The situation is hard and it does leave you wanting to run away from it all. I felt that way all the time. You turn to the staff and they can't help or if they do the help is no help at all. I felt they weren't really bothered about me at the time. No understanding. It does leave you wanting to leave and wondering what the point in staying is. You seem to be getting nowhere and going nowhere. It adds a lot of confusion into a mix of difficulties you're already struggling with. I'm really sorry you are both going through this. I have been through similar. I wish I could help you. I send you my best and positive vibes, in the hopes that they can carry you through this to better things.

Education is hard at the best of times and the older you get the harder it becomes. That was how I found it. It often left me feeling exhausted, drained, brain beaten and needing more rest than it was given. There's so much pressure with education for people with autism. You have the pressures of a big noisy school, college or university and then there's the pressures of the vast amount of people surrounding you and fitting in suddenly is something you feel you need to do. And then there's the pressures of the work. Good grades are what you're after but it takes so much to get them. All the reading in the world didn't make it any easier and I read a lot to try to learn to manage everything! I feel for you and your son. The situation is hard and it does leave you wanting to run away from it all. I felt that way all the time. You turn to the staff and they can't help or if they do the help is no help at all. I felt they weren't really bothered about me at the time. No understanding. It does leave you wanting to leave and wondering what the point in staying is. You seem to be getting nowhere and going nowhere. It adds a lot of confusion into a mix of difficulties you're already struggling with. I'm really sorry you are both going through this. I have been through similar. I wish I could help you. I send you my best and positive vibes, in the hopes that they can carry you through this to better things.

Thank you so much GirlX - that’s exactly how we feel. I’m sorry you’ve experienced this too. I’ve just read your reply to my son and he really appreciates you sharing your experience. He’s often felt like he’s so alone at school and college in feeling this way (though really we know he probably wasn’t (and isn’t). 
I wish it wasn’t like this for autistic people. I sometimes raised the subject with my son of leaving mainstream education - but he wanted to stick with it and work at fitting in and being ‘normal’ (unhelpful and toxic word but i think we know what we mean by it). 
On reflection I think that many autistic people would thrive more in schools designed specifically to meet the needs of autistic students. I think that’s what we need - welcoming, low pressure, encouraging, quiet and calm schools that are truly harmonious with autistic pupil’s needs. 
The problem is that no Government so far has had that level of commitment to autistic people.like most minorities we are not a priority. 

Thank you so much for your kind words and positive vibes - they really do mean a lot x