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SonicBoomBoy

Hi,
Just signed up here so as to be able to see how other people are coping and to hopefully get some pointers/advice on our own situation (though I doubt anyone can help).

We have three kids, 2 year old daughter, 4 year old son (soon to be 5 who has already been diagnosed with Autism (mild/mederate) and we already have him "statemented"), and our 6 year old daughter.

Just curious really to see how bad other's autistic children are.....

I personally am finding it very difficult to accept that I have a son with autism.....even though he was diagmosed 2 years + ago. 

He is in his own world, totally blanks me, doesn't comminicate, doesn't talk, doesn't give eye contact........this list is endless.

Anyway....that's how it is ......(I am very bitter!)

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  •  hi - welcome to the site - lots of info via the posts + home pg so please have a look

    I'm sorry to hear you're bitter - that won't get you anywhere - sorry I know that's blunt, but it's a fact.  You're child has turned out not to be the 1 you expected.  Your child has autism + needs your understanding + support, as do the rest of your family.  You can be bitter for ever but what's the use of that?  Your child is the same person he always was - he hasn't changed.  You are grieving for someone who never existed, except in your dreams.  Yes, I know too blunt, but also true.  Many of us here have felt emotional about the diagnosis + have taken time to adjust.  But adjust you must, because there's nothing else you can do apart from remaining bitter.  2.5 yrs is a long time to be that way.  Your son needs you to understand how autism affects him as an individual.  By understanding that you can help him + be the dad he needs.  If you're trying to treat him like a non-autistic child then you're on a hiding to nothing (sorry yet again).  Please try to move away from the mind-set you're in - it doesn't do anyone any good at all, inc yourself.

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  •  hi - welcome to the site - lots of info via the posts + home pg so please have a look

    I'm sorry to hear you're bitter - that won't get you anywhere - sorry I know that's blunt, but it's a fact.  You're child has turned out not to be the 1 you expected.  Your child has autism + needs your understanding + support, as do the rest of your family.  You can be bitter for ever but what's the use of that?  Your child is the same person he always was - he hasn't changed.  You are grieving for someone who never existed, except in your dreams.  Yes, I know too blunt, but also true.  Many of us here have felt emotional about the diagnosis + have taken time to adjust.  But adjust you must, because there's nothing else you can do apart from remaining bitter.  2.5 yrs is a long time to be that way.  Your son needs you to understand how autism affects him as an individual.  By understanding that you can help him + be the dad he needs.  If you're trying to treat him like a non-autistic child then you're on a hiding to nothing (sorry yet again).  Please try to move away from the mind-set you're in - it doesn't do anyone any good at all, inc yourself.

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