Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi
my recently diagnosed teenage boy (17) is always curt, unpleasant and rude to his younger brother (13). Their relationship is and has always been non existent which is heartbreaking to see. The younger one has only ever wanted a sibling he could play with, get on with, confide in, and trust. This has just never been there.
there is always way too much shouting, arguing, accusing and just general unpleasantness in the house. My Wife pushed hard to get our older boy assessed as she thought something amiss and he was diagnosed a few months ago.
He knows about his diagnosis but we have never broached this as with him or even as a couple much. He wasn’t particularly bothered by his diagnosis. He is high functioning but has always had problems making and keeping friends. He can deal with one person at a time and expects full loyalty and is not flexible at all.
his younger brother tried for years but has now given up trying to be friends with him. It’s so sad to see.
what practical advice can anyone give on any of this? What techniques are there for helping anyone in the family?
Try to understand that I could be struggling to come to terms with his diagnosis and he may feel frustrated i'm autistic and I understand how hard it can be so my advice would have to be ask what he's interested in and calmly talk to him and ask also try and put yourself in his shoes he might not have social skills but he's good at other things