Published on 12, July, 2020
HI all,
From my perspective, I have found that anger is the most challenging emotion to feel/express effectively and accept in others. I realise anger is an important emotion which is useful in many scenarios but my personal observation is that others sometimes use it to undermine/attack/bully others. This for me is when it becomes unacceptable and traumatising. When I feel anger building in me and I know that I cannot stop it, I am terrified inside as it feels overwhelming for me. I am more comfortable with other emotions but am learning that it is okay to be angry as long as you remain respectful and if you can't you escape the situation or warn the other person the level of anger you are feeling so you can talk later when calmer. I'd like to know of other strategies people use to allow anger to happen and be okay with it. I rarely express anger towards others because it's so built up from years of repression that I would be scared of how it would manifest. I am so used to pushing it down that I now no longer feel it even if another person is fully expressing it right in my face. I tend to disassociate and feel sad about whatever it is that got them to that point of hurt. I see anger as the protective barrier for hurt and trauma.
Thanks for reading, I look forward to gaining more insight into this emotion.
Angers just a way of life. He'll at least half the world's angry right. All you have to do is go on social media and see that. Angers healthy anyway when channeled correctly. So long as your anger doesn't bring harm to those around a you I see nothing wrong it.