Mum on the edge

Im glad that you took Ethan bowling, its important to try to do the things that Ethan enjoys.

On the subject of judgemental people, to me, it is so sad that people cannot see beneath the exterior; and thats not just for people with a disability. I value difference but most people think that we should conform to their norm! Whos to say what the norm is? I was overweight for 45 years and suffered apallingly for all of those miserable unhappy years, why? because my body did not conform to the norm; of course, this is driven mainly by the media and fashion houses who all think that the norm should be a body like a coat hanger. Anyway my point is that I suffered so much, I had a gastric bypass operation just to become less visible to the majority of the population who assumed that I sat on my backside all day, munching on everything in sight. I dont feel any happier inside now than I did when I was 22 stone but I just love being able to become invisible and being able to walk the streets without people staring and making horrible comments (of course they were just loud enough for me to hear).

People who have a child with autism cant have a magic operation or disappear into the background and it hurts when people stare, point or make abusive comments but I found the best way to deal with this sort of behaviour was to grin right back at them and laugh loudly, they thought I was mad but it did seem to put them off of their stride a little; sometimes I think people act in this way because it gives them pleasure to hurt others, if that is the norm, I dont want any part of it.

At 3 years old, Ethan is developing and passing through difficult stages that all children face. Tantrums are common at this age; my guess is that as Ethan gets a little older, things will become less stressful for you and for him so hang on in there, you are obviously a good and loving mum and this will reap benifits in the end. My son can become very stressed and act just as Ethan does the only difference is that he is 30 but one thing I do know is that he loves me and I love him. Tantrums come and go but love stays forever.

Just take care. XXX

Im glad that you took Ethan bowling, its important to try to do the things that Ethan enjoys.

On the subject of judgemental people, to me, it is so sad that people cannot see beneath the exterior; and thats not just for people with a disability. I value difference but most people think that we should conform to their norm! Whos to say what the norm is? I was overweight for 45 years and suffered apallingly for all of those miserable unhappy years, why? because my body did not conform to the norm; of course, this is driven mainly by the media and fashion houses who all think that the norm should be a body like a coat hanger. Anyway my point is that I suffered so much, I had a gastric bypass operation just to become less visible to the majority of the population who assumed that I sat on my backside all day, munching on everything in sight. I dont feel any happier inside now than I did when I was 22 stone but I just love being able to become invisible and being able to walk the streets without people staring and making horrible comments (of course they were just loud enough for me to hear).

People who have a child with autism cant have a magic operation or disappear into the background and it hurts when people stare, point or make abusive comments but I found the best way to deal with this sort of behaviour was to grin right back at them and laugh loudly, they thought I was mad but it did seem to put them off of their stride a little; sometimes I think people act in this way because it gives them pleasure to hurt others, if that is the norm, I dont want any part of it.

At 3 years old, Ethan is developing and passing through difficult stages that all children face. Tantrums are common at this age; my guess is that as Ethan gets a little older, things will become less stressful for you and for him so hang on in there, you are obviously a good and loving mum and this will reap benifits in the end. My son can become very stressed and act just as Ethan does the only difference is that he is 30 but one thing I do know is that he loves me and I love him. Tantrums come and go but love stays forever.

Just take care. XXX