Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello! I'm new here and am just wanting to introduce myself.
My name is Constanza, I'm 38 and live with my husband and two kids.
I'm recently diagnosed but have had a long journey of wrong diagnosis and various awful medications before I came to this point. I'm generally healthier and happier now but I have my daily struggles, as we all do. I'm also now going through the motions of my kids being and waiting to be assessed too.
I'm looking forward to meeting new people here. I do struggle with some social interactions, but I do want to form new friendships. I think what I struggle with most, and also what I find most exhausting, is the expectation of constant reciprocation. I think what I mean is being expected to reply to every single text or being able to carry on a conversation because it's socially polite. I have found it so hard and upsetting over the years when people choose to take my anxiety or problems in social situations as a personal slight. Sometimes it's so hard to explain what I think and why I struggle and I suppose it doesn't fit with what some neurotypical people require from friendship. I don't know.
I'd love to gain some pen friends and would also be happy to correspond over email or text. As I said previously though, I'm not always able to sit and text for long periods though.
I enjoy arts and crafts, reading and playing piano. I also love animals and nature. I have 2 cats, Bobcat and Aslan, and a Pug named Horus.
I'm very pleased to be here and look forward to meeting some new, lovely people
Hi Constanza! I’m new here, too, and totally relate to the texting and messaging thing. It’s hard keeping long conversations going, and I’ve often looked at the people who seem to comment on every post on social media and wondered how they have the energy to do that!
Hi Constanza, that doesn't sound like a fun weekend at all. I completely switch off in situations like that.
I've removed the "still" from my bio, thanks!
Hi LS, it's good to meet you! I've experienced that too, it makes social situations so uncomfortable. I had to attend a family wedding at the weekend which was my idea of hell. So many triggers and noises. It's such a difficult thing to explain and everyone expects you to smile all the time.
Hi aidie!
Thank you, I'm very happy to be here
hello LS
I would say you can take the word ''still'' out of your bio with a cclear mind, you won't lose a night over it.
welcome LS to this forum
Hi, I'm new here too! Social interactions are difficult for me too and NT people often take my silence as being rude or not interested. People I know also avoid me because of this.
HI
and welcome to this forum
have fun
Pug was not big but he was the biggest :P
Yes, I know the feeling! I came off social media years ago for that reason, among others. I can remember once someone actually shunning me because I didn't comment on a post they'd made. It's just too much for me.
The Pug's name was chosen by my husband. He's really into Warhammer books and took inspiration from there. He thought a dog of small stature needs a big name
I totally relate to the thing about replying to every text or message. I find that so exhausting. Sometimes I take a few days away from everything at a time and then I worry that people will think I dont want to talk to them.
Constanza said: Pug
Hi
That means you've read Magician: Apprentice
I love cats too, good name