Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello. I've been chatting to some ladies on here who are struggling in their relationships with partners who have Aspergers or high function Autism and I've noticed there seems to be a need for support. I am in the same situation and my partner and I have a little boy aged 5, who is also on the spectrum. Life has been very tough for a few years, but my partner and I have just started counselling.
I am hoping some others will hop on board so we can all share info and experience and support each other.
I haven't intended it to be exclusively for ladies by the way.
Love Rosemary xx
Hello
Sometimes I don't know if it's the right thing to stay in the relationship with my partner. I'm 40 and a lot of my friends are so pleased that I've finally found a relationship that they keep telling me to steam ahead and try to have children ASAP (if my eggs will provide!).
But I'm not even sure that J and I should move in together, as often I feel more like a carer than a partner. I can only see the difficulties getting worse if there is also a child to look after, as J can't stay organised and calm enough to stay in employment.
J is very loving, and now he has a diagnosis maybe there will be improvements as he reaches out for help with work, etc. But I do not want to ignore my intuitions about the problems, as in the past that has landed me in very unhealthy situations.
I am an empathic person, but in my experience that can lead to being used. I'm not sure I want to get involved in a scenario where pity is the main emotion I have towards my partner.
Anyone here know what I mean?