Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello. I've been chatting to some ladies on here who are struggling in their relationships with partners who have Aspergers or high function Autism and I've noticed there seems to be a need for support. I am in the same situation and my partner and I have a little boy aged 5, who is also on the spectrum. Life has been very tough for a few years, but my partner and I have just started counselling.
I am hoping some others will hop on board so we can all share info and experience and support each other.
I haven't intended it to be exclusively for ladies by the way.
Love Rosemary xx
In answer to the question "Would anyone say to someone who was blind or deaf or with any other disability that they had ruined the marriage because of their disability?" I would say ABSOLUTELY! And I'm in a position to know this because of my disabilitey, because of knowing other people who are disabled and because my sister is deaf. Illness and disability can put an awful strain on any relationship. People split up for many reasons but sometimes the last straw can be either a physical or mental condition which the able bodied partner cannot cope with. If anyone has the idea that you always get sympathy when you are disabled, ill, deaf etc. then that's living in cloud cuckoo land. One of my sister's stories is about being in a supermarket and being rammed by a hearing woman with her trolley. She had obviously been trying to get my sister's attention without success. That's only one of many stories she could tell you about the way she has been treated. As she oftens says, blindness gets more sympathy than deafness as people quite often think it's o.k. to say "What's the matter with you? You deaf or something?" in a very aggressive way.
And by the way I have NEVER told my husband that he has 'ruined' our marriage.
If you find it so soul destroying to be on a forum why bother?