Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello. I've been chatting to some ladies on here who are struggling in their relationships with partners who have Aspergers or high function Autism and I've noticed there seems to be a need for support. I am in the same situation and my partner and I have a little boy aged 5, who is also on the spectrum. Life has been very tough for a few years, but my partner and I have just started counselling.
I am hoping some others will hop on board so we can all share info and experience and support each other.
I haven't intended it to be exclusively for ladies by the way.
Love Rosemary xx
I second IntenseWorld on this. It has to be said that, since the husband does not yet have a diagnosis, it is still all speculation. I mean this not in a disrespectful way, but just that there are strongly held suspicions that WinnieMay's husband has Aspergers, as yet not verified. The problem here, though, is that the behaviours WinnieMay describes could be explained by an Asperger's diagnosis (which I believe she is trying to attain), or they could be unique to her husband. If they are down to the former, to an extent he cannot help the behaviours, although if he loves WinnieMay enough, he would try his hardest to modify them - he would need a lot of help with this. If the behaviours are idiosyncratic to him, with or without Aspergers as an additional factor, it is a personality issue.
All people with Asperger's are unique, with different personalities, and it can be very difficult to disentangle what is caused by the Asperger's and what is simply unique to the individual. It is hurtful and upsetting for people with Asperger's when apparently selfish behaviour coming from one individual is blamed on the condition, because it implies that, by implication, all people with Aspergers must be selfish and lacking in empathy - this is not true!