Support thread for those of us with partners/spouses with ASC-all welcome

we r the auties said:

Hello. I've been chatting to some ladies on here who are struggling in their relationships with partners who have Aspergers or high function Autism and I've noticed there seems to be a need for support. I am in the same situation and my partner and I have a little boy aged 5, who is also on the spectrum. Life has been very tough for a few years, but my partner and I have just started counselling.

I am hoping some others will hop on board so we can all share info and experience and support each other.

I haven't intended it to be exclusively for ladies by the way.

Love Rosemary xx

You may find this Q&A useful: http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/parents-relatives-and-carers/partners/partners-some-frequently-asked-questions.aspx.  Many marriages are difficult for many reasons.  I think what people on the spectrum find unpleasant to hear, is the condition being entirely blamed for their personality and behaviours.  That is almost like a disability hate crime to us.  Yes we have an ASC, but that isn't the whole of us, and labelling people on the spectrum with a host of negative labels and attributing it to their autism is disrespectful at the least.  Would anyone say to someone who was blind or deaf or with any other disability that they had ruined the marriage because of their disability?  To come on a forum and hear ourselves slated so badly when we already are full of anxiety about our own shortcomings is soul-destroying.

we r the auties said:

Hello. I've been chatting to some ladies on here who are struggling in their relationships with partners who have Aspergers or high function Autism and I've noticed there seems to be a need for support. I am in the same situation and my partner and I have a little boy aged 5, who is also on the spectrum. Life has been very tough for a few years, but my partner and I have just started counselling.

I am hoping some others will hop on board so we can all share info and experience and support each other.

I haven't intended it to be exclusively for ladies by the way.

Love Rosemary xx

You may find this Q&A useful: http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/parents-relatives-and-carers/partners/partners-some-frequently-asked-questions.aspx.  Many marriages are difficult for many reasons.  I think what people on the spectrum find unpleasant to hear, is the condition being entirely blamed for their personality and behaviours.  That is almost like a disability hate crime to us.  Yes we have an ASC, but that isn't the whole of us, and labelling people on the spectrum with a host of negative labels and attributing it to their autism is disrespectful at the least.  Would anyone say to someone who was blind or deaf or with any other disability that they had ruined the marriage because of their disability?  To come on a forum and hear ourselves slated so badly when we already are full of anxiety about our own shortcomings is soul-destroying.