Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello. I've been chatting to some ladies on here who are struggling in their relationships with partners who have Aspergers or high function Autism and I've noticed there seems to be a need for support. I am in the same situation and my partner and I have a little boy aged 5, who is also on the spectrum. Life has been very tough for a few years, but my partner and I have just started counselling.
I am hoping some others will hop on board so we can all share info and experience and support each other.
I haven't intended it to be exclusively for ladies by the way.
Love Rosemary xx
we r the auties said: I don't want to live in Aspergers world any more. Its not nice for a NT person Today's session has demoralised me - either my partner has much worse language and communication difficulties that I thought, or he's a skunk! Really fed up. All I ever did was fall in love with him and try to have a 'normal' relationship and life. I don't want all this cr@p any more. Life is too short. There's only 2 of us 4 siblings in our family left so looks like we are not long livers.Love Rosemary xx
I don't want to live in Aspergers world any more. Its not nice for a NT person
Today's session has demoralised me - either my partner has much worse language and communication difficulties that I thought, or he's a skunk!
Really fed up. All I ever did was fall in love with him and try to have a 'normal' relationship and life. I don't want all this cr@p any more. Life is too short. There's only 2 of us 4 siblings in our family left so looks like we are not long livers.
I am a female with Asperger's, with an NT husband.
Daily life as someone on the spectrum is a struggle you will never have to understand as an NT. For us, it's not just a marriage that's not nice, it's the whole of society.
My husband, despite being NT, does many thoughtless and selfish things. In fact, virtually all of the things ladies on this thread have accused their husbands of because of being Aspies or potential Aspies, my husband does too, and he is definitely NT.
I am the one who remembers birthdays and anniversaries. He has always been unsupportive, uncommunicative and thinks everything is a joke (even when you are upset). I read all the time that men generally are not great communicators and many are unsupportive.
Aspies have our own personalities too, you can't blame everything wrong in someone on their autism spectrum condition!
I could say the same, all I did was fall in love with him. We grew apart years ago because I had enough. I have done so much to support him in his work and been like a single parent with our children who both have autism spectrum conditions too.
I just wanted to give the other perspective, because everyone seems to be blaming Aspies and commiserating with how awful we are, and it's not so. An individual can be blamed for their shortcomings yes, but don't blame everything on the condition. There are plenty of NTs full of shortcomings too - and their brains are wired "normally".