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Support thread for those of us with partners/spouses with ASC-all welcome

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Hello. I've been chatting to some ladies on here who are struggling in their relationships with partners who have Aspergers or high function Autism and I've noticed there seems to be a need for support. I am in the same situation and my partner and I have a little boy aged 5, who is also on the spectrum. Life has been very tough for a few years, but my partner and I have just started counselling.

I am hoping some others will hop on board so we can all share info and experience and support each other.

I haven't intended it to be exclusively for ladies by the way.

Love Rosemary xx

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  • Hi Rosemary,

    I have similar concerns to yours about the home schooling, but i also want to help him reduce his stress.  I fear his behaviour and traits could worsen if anxiety is not reduced.  I read alot of threads regards long term effects of non sympathetic schools.

    It is a tricky one, at the moment his symptoms do not show themselves too much, outwardly so i am told he does nnot need an official diagnoisis nor statement at the moment, but yet i am told he definatly is on the spectrum and Aspergers is discussed.  Yet when push comes to shove and he is struggling at school whether it be swimming or routine or whatever i do not feel enough allowances are given to him because he hides his anxiety and other traits too well!  He is caught in the middle.

    I have to make the school take his concerns seriously and act on ways to help him, they have not carried out half the suggestions since our last meeting.  I have just started the ball rolling to arrange another.

    No my husband would not teach him it would be me, i do not worry about that part as so much on the internet nowadays to help, social interaction, being too reliant on me, and my sanity are just a few of my worries! 

    My son did get on the bus this morning with a booster seat, thankfully it seems the day to accept the change was enough.  None of the others had one though?!  The seat belts are not adjustable you see, on the old bus they were.  Without a booster  seat on this bus the belt would sit around my sons neck, very dangerous if a crash occured, recommended by one and all but not compulsory, very strange when it is in a car?!

    I am going down with another coldFrown just my luck!

    Wish i was psychic would get a lottery ticket, win off course.  Holidays galore!  private tuition by an expert on Aspergers, swimming pool in the garden...... dream dream dream!!!

    Sorry you are still knackered but at least it sounds like you are getting somewhere now with the schoolLaughing

    Take care

    Puffin x x

     

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  • Hi Rosemary,

    I have similar concerns to yours about the home schooling, but i also want to help him reduce his stress.  I fear his behaviour and traits could worsen if anxiety is not reduced.  I read alot of threads regards long term effects of non sympathetic schools.

    It is a tricky one, at the moment his symptoms do not show themselves too much, outwardly so i am told he does nnot need an official diagnoisis nor statement at the moment, but yet i am told he definatly is on the spectrum and Aspergers is discussed.  Yet when push comes to shove and he is struggling at school whether it be swimming or routine or whatever i do not feel enough allowances are given to him because he hides his anxiety and other traits too well!  He is caught in the middle.

    I have to make the school take his concerns seriously and act on ways to help him, they have not carried out half the suggestions since our last meeting.  I have just started the ball rolling to arrange another.

    No my husband would not teach him it would be me, i do not worry about that part as so much on the internet nowadays to help, social interaction, being too reliant on me, and my sanity are just a few of my worries! 

    My son did get on the bus this morning with a booster seat, thankfully it seems the day to accept the change was enough.  None of the others had one though?!  The seat belts are not adjustable you see, on the old bus they were.  Without a booster  seat on this bus the belt would sit around my sons neck, very dangerous if a crash occured, recommended by one and all but not compulsory, very strange when it is in a car?!

    I am going down with another coldFrown just my luck!

    Wish i was psychic would get a lottery ticket, win off course.  Holidays galore!  private tuition by an expert on Aspergers, swimming pool in the garden...... dream dream dream!!!

    Sorry you are still knackered but at least it sounds like you are getting somewhere now with the schoolLaughing

    Take care

    Puffin x x

     

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