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Newbie to the group and needing advice

NickiBen

Hi all I'm Nicki and im a single mum to my little boy Ben who is 3 who has been diagnosed with autism and a sensory processing impairment in Feb 2013.

I feel very overwhelmed with it all at the moment and have been reading up on it as much as i can. I just wanted to know how parents dealt with disciplining their children. Ben cant communicate very well i.e you cant have a conversation with him so he doesnt necesssarily always understand. He has started lashing out at me and I dont want it to get out of hand ( if i can help it)

Any tips and advice will be greatly appreciated. Thankyou guys x

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  • Hi - Silver100 gives good advice about discovering the reason(s) for him lashing out.   When we have problems communicating we can get frustrated so it's important to get to the bottom of this.  It's his way of dealing with powerful emotions which he can't express.  It'll be detective work to find out what's causing it!  

    There are many ways to communicate so maybe you can pick up on when he's getting tense by his body language, expressions etc.   If you can then piece together what happened before his body language changed then you may be on to something.  Also - does he get enough sleep?  We can all get irritable when we're tired, stressed etc.  You need to be careful about how you discipline him.  As he's unable at present to let you know what's upsetting him, he may not recognise your actions as a response to his "behaviour".  I wouldn't recommend discipling him in the way you'd discipline a non-autistic child.   That could make him feel worse - vicious circle.  Whatever you do you must stay calm (easier said than done).  What do you do at the moment?  Really it's preventing the meltdown in the 1st place.  Sorry if anything I've said has made presumptions. bw

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  • Hi - Silver100 gives good advice about discovering the reason(s) for him lashing out.   When we have problems communicating we can get frustrated so it's important to get to the bottom of this.  It's his way of dealing with powerful emotions which he can't express.  It'll be detective work to find out what's causing it!  

    There are many ways to communicate so maybe you can pick up on when he's getting tense by his body language, expressions etc.   If you can then piece together what happened before his body language changed then you may be on to something.  Also - does he get enough sleep?  We can all get irritable when we're tired, stressed etc.  You need to be careful about how you discipline him.  As he's unable at present to let you know what's upsetting him, he may not recognise your actions as a response to his "behaviour".  I wouldn't recommend discipling him in the way you'd discipline a non-autistic child.   That could make him feel worse - vicious circle.  Whatever you do you must stay calm (easier said than done).  What do you do at the moment?  Really it's preventing the meltdown in the 1st place.  Sorry if anything I've said has made presumptions. bw

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