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Newbie to the group and needing advice

NickiBen

Hi all I'm Nicki and im a single mum to my little boy Ben who is 3 who has been diagnosed with autism and a sensory processing impairment in Feb 2013.

I feel very overwhelmed with it all at the moment and have been reading up on it as much as i can. I just wanted to know how parents dealt with disciplining their children. Ben cant communicate very well i.e you cant have a conversation with him so he doesnt necesssarily always understand. He has started lashing out at me and I dont want it to get out of hand ( if i can help it)

Any tips and advice will be greatly appreciated. Thankyou guys x

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  • Are there things in particular that happen just before he lashes out?

    Sometimes sounds, touch, lights , smells, even the flow of air, movement of people near by can be unbearable to autistic person that is un-noticeable to a non-autistic person, so you will need to try and become more aware of what sensory stimulus he is experiencing and if this might be the reason for his behaviour.

    Another thing that causes such behaviour is slight changes in routine that a non-autistic person would just take in their stride can be very upsetting. These should be avoided where possible.

    Could you find an alternative, less harmful behaviour that he could do instead when frustrated or distressed such as squeezing a squashy ball, or whatever, instead of hitting out? What will work depends on his sensory dificult areas. You will probably have to experiment a bit to find out what helps. He may need a positive response from you if he uses this instead of lashing out.  We are very easily discouraged if we we have difficulty doing something, we just don't believe we will ever be able to do it.

    Best of luck Smile

     

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  • Are there things in particular that happen just before he lashes out?

    Sometimes sounds, touch, lights , smells, even the flow of air, movement of people near by can be unbearable to autistic person that is un-noticeable to a non-autistic person, so you will need to try and become more aware of what sensory stimulus he is experiencing and if this might be the reason for his behaviour.

    Another thing that causes such behaviour is slight changes in routine that a non-autistic person would just take in their stride can be very upsetting. These should be avoided where possible.

    Could you find an alternative, less harmful behaviour that he could do instead when frustrated or distressed such as squeezing a squashy ball, or whatever, instead of hitting out? What will work depends on his sensory dificult areas. You will probably have to experiment a bit to find out what helps. He may need a positive response from you if he uses this instead of lashing out.  We are very easily discouraged if we we have difficulty doing something, we just don't believe we will ever be able to do it.

    Best of luck Smile

     

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