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Hello from Bonnie Scotland!

BroodingSnow

Where to start...

Hello peeps!

I'm really not a great people person, not even sure if this is a good idea, but hey, gotta start somewhere.  I was diagnosed(ASD) initially when i was 15, and again at 27 when i caused a bit of a hoo-ha, so i guess there's no point trying to convince myself it isn't true.  People have been moaning at me for years that i need to get out more, make new friends, find new hobbies and get off the computer.  They seem to think its just as easy as that, it might well be as easy as that for them, but it really isn't for me! I'm sure they mean well, as i do crave friendships/companionship etc, it just doesn't work out as i hope and after so many failures in the past i kind of gave up and resigned myself to being alone forever.

I've got a weird sense of humour that most people don't get, i get anxious around people i don't know, and even groups of people i do know. I never initiate anything, no matter how much i want to say anything, I'll go along with anything even if i think its a bad idea just to fit in(the hoo-ha from above). What's not to love?!

I was just googling face to face groups for people of the spectrum when i found this site, hoping to find like minded people, not to say i'd find the courage to turn up of course. I guess this is a safer start for me.  With any luck, there's another weirdo like myself here waiting for me... it could happen!

Lets hope this is goes better than im expecting.

(P.S)I realised after typing all that, i haven't really shared anything about myself... It has been years since ive spoken to anybody properly so i guess i need some practice.

D.

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  • Hey! Welcome!

    You know the right companions are out there.

    I was talking to an old friend today. Little did we both know that for different reasons we've both ended up needing an assessment in our 50s. Wierd synchronicity???

    Maybe not! We've both had our different traumas due to the traits, but however little we might have felt we didn't fit with general society, we've always clicked with, loved and respected eachother. Indeed, we are both aware others think we're odd, but we really don't see eachother as odd at all.

    They do say put two auties in a room and communication problems?...what communication problems? Like does attract like.

    You'll find some like minded souls here, I'm sure. It's not easy to identify them in the real world, but one in about 70 of the population, odds are there must be some you run across of which some will be friendship material. Meanwhile, we're here...

    Spent a lot of time in Scotland as a kid :-)

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    Speaking of 2 auties in a room, that really didn't work out lol.  I got stuck with somebody that's focus was on discovery land rovers and politics, and just wouldn't stop talking about them. I told him umpteen times i wasn't interested, but he kept going on about it.  I guess that's what people think about me when i ramble on about computers and games, but in general i don't mention them anymore unless asked for that exact reason.

    I suppose 2 auties with a similar focus might be good, but 2 randoms, not so much!

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  • in reply to Dawn

    Speaking of 2 auties in a room, that really didn't work out lol.  I got stuck with somebody that's focus was on discovery land rovers and politics, and just wouldn't stop talking about them. I told him umpteen times i wasn't interested, but he kept going on about it.  I guess that's what people think about me when i ramble on about computers and games, but in general i don't mention them anymore unless asked for that exact reason.

    I suppose 2 auties with a similar focus might be good, but 2 randoms, not so much!

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