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Hello from Bonnie Scotland!

BroodingSnow

Where to start...

Hello peeps!

I'm really not a great people person, not even sure if this is a good idea, but hey, gotta start somewhere.  I was diagnosed(ASD) initially when i was 15, and again at 27 when i caused a bit of a hoo-ha, so i guess there's no point trying to convince myself it isn't true.  People have been moaning at me for years that i need to get out more, make new friends, find new hobbies and get off the computer.  They seem to think its just as easy as that, it might well be as easy as that for them, but it really isn't for me! I'm sure they mean well, as i do crave friendships/companionship etc, it just doesn't work out as i hope and after so many failures in the past i kind of gave up and resigned myself to being alone forever.

I've got a weird sense of humour that most people don't get, i get anxious around people i don't know, and even groups of people i do know. I never initiate anything, no matter how much i want to say anything, I'll go along with anything even if i think its a bad idea just to fit in(the hoo-ha from above). What's not to love?!

I was just googling face to face groups for people of the spectrum when i found this site, hoping to find like minded people, not to say i'd find the courage to turn up of course. I guess this is a safer start for me.  With any luck, there's another weirdo like myself here waiting for me... it could happen!

Lets hope this is goes better than im expecting.

(P.S)I realised after typing all that, i haven't really shared anything about myself... It has been years since ive spoken to anybody properly so i guess i need some practice.

D.

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  • Hello Dawn. I think these people are just closed minded. You are what you are. I tried to be social at university and in school to fit in but I usually ended up wishing I could pursue my own interests and not them. I aIways felt sad that I cannot be happy around other people as they seemed happy but I never was. But now do this and hardly talk to people. Perhaps it is easier to just meet one or two people that like you as you are and then carry on with who you are? 

  • in reply to Pookywombat

    Absolutely. No can be what they are not and trying will never make anyone happy.

    I find it easier one on one as people tend to open up and tell you what they think and feel, so no guess work or multiple conversation threads.

    I do go out in groups of people I really like but tend to sit on the edge of them. 

    I have found over a life time that I've gravitated toward people who are very easy going and tolerant or else as off beat as I am for one reason or another.

  • in reply to Dawn

    Yes, they would have to be interested in things that I am or in the least tolerant of differences. 

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  • in reply to Pookywombat

    That's seems to be my issue as well.  I kinda get fed up and bored if I'm with people that are speaking about things in not interested in.  I know i need to listen to them, as they listen to me, but its just so difficult to keep focus.  Since I'm basically just a gamer and nothing else, finding people away from computers with similar interested seems impossible.  Im also not great at asking questions, i need them to keep engaging me or it will result in that awkward silent moment.