Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone,I am new on this community.English is not my native language, I try to learn everyday, so I apologize for the mistakes and incorrect sentences.Furthermore, it is very difficult for me to introduce myself.
I am 53, I just received my Final report assessment for ASD, Finally, I am deeply autistic... (Asperger).Normally I am a resilient: a lot of accidents and diseases, 3 near dead experiences, several dead condemnation by medicine. But I am always here, I never stop my job and research and I had always positive attitude.But since I received my assessment on 27 may 2021, I am living the roller coaster. One day I am happy because all the difficulties in my life take a sense, and the next day I am devastated, because I can't see how I can transform myself, and I can't see solutions specially in my job.The social networks, communication are hard for me, and on this website and community, there is much information and I am loss. Fortunately, I observe I am not alone in this case and I regain a lot of similitude with my behaviours and my thinks.
For almost 30 years I am independent (self employ, companies CEO) because I never find a job. For each interview with an employer always they said to me: you have too much experience, too much skill, your brain ways are very different and you see too much detail (often bad detail)... finally no job!In France, a country that I definitively left there is 7 years, since 2009 by France, I am considered disabled at more 80%. Because I am different, this country considers me like a crazy and stupid man. So with this difference it is impossible to have a job or to create a company. France is not a good place to be autistic. Even more so if you are an independent because you have no choice.
So I am independent, I have not one job as self employ, but a lot. My main studies and activity are sciences: I am, inter alia, astronomer, astrophysicist, neurophotonics specialist, a new medical application: more information on my website: [removed by moderator].
On the National Autistic Society website, there is some information to find jobs, make interviews, etc. but nothing to help autistic who are independent. For an independent without real human communication, it is too much difficult to have and grow up customers. Communication, advertising, or first contact is too hard for an autistic, you know that. In the past, I took collaborators for that, but all time my collaborators abused to me, stole my technologies or my publications and at the end I loss everything.
If it is easy for me to understand how works universe(s), technologies, medicine, building, nature, or the consequences of mindset on the physical health but the social interactions for me stay very difficult to understand.I have no friends, no network for my job, no contact with my family, fortunately my wife is a guide for me and she help me as well as she can it.
So if someone has experience, information, link, know people who can help me. I am open, I am ready to follow.Thank you very much for your patient and happy to find a place where I am not only an extra-terrestrial.Aonghas
Edited by Anna Mod
Bienvenue :)
Dis donc, tu écris bien! Ça fait longtemps que je n'ai plus l'occasion de me servire de mon francais. Tu parles plutôt comme une vache française, j'en suits sure.
Yes, indeed. So much of my previous life experiences make sense now. A light has been turned on. And going forward, it's interesting to be able to approach new experiences with a little more self-understanding and a little less self-criticism. Does it make this life easier? Yes. Does it make this life more enjoyable? Yes. Does it make this life longer? No.
Yes ☕Tassimo ☕
Thank you for your message. After the storm, the calm come back. Sure, I spent more time to learn about all subjects and I forget I am a very good subject of study. So I start to learn who I am.Your french is very good.
@Aube, Thank you for your answer. Yes, this forum is in English, and my goal is to become British citizens. So I must speak and write all time in English. I confess, it is very tiring for the brain, but a good exercice.I observed, for me, know that if I was different probably with an ASD was sometimes funny, but to be recognized by an official organism, it is different, because is a real fact.It is time for me to accept this difference and how I can use the power of this difference to have a better life.Thank you.
Salut, Aongohs. Soyez la bienvenue parmi nous, les zigotos. Je ne suis pas membre de ce forum depuis trop longtemps non plus. Tout comme vous, j'ai reçu un diagnostic de trouble du spectre autistique très récemment (mai 2021) à l'âge de 49 ans. Je vais fêter mes 50 ans en novembre, donc moi aussi je suis arrive un peu en retard a la fête !
Au début, j'avais l'impression qu'il y avait eu un tremblement de terre et que j'étais à la dérive, mais au cours des dernières semaines, j'ai commencé à me sentir mieux et à me sentir plus a l'aise. Ce qui compte, a mes yeux, c'est que j'apprends de plus en plus sur moi-même, même s'il s'agit d'avancer a petits pas, et peu importe ce qui m'arrive, et qui que je sois, et peu importe les nouvelles étiquettes qu'ils me collent dans le dos, je continue d'avancer vers le bonheur.
Au fait, bravo pour ton niveau d'anglais, moi ca fait des annees que j'apprends le français et je le parle toujours comme une vache espagnole.
Salut Aonghas, Félicitations pour votre diagnostic ainsi que pour la qualité de votre anglais. Je suis ravie de faire votre connaissance et bienvenu.
I'd like to chat in French, but I'll use English for the benefit of the Forum. It sounds like you really haven't had an easy time at all. But I am sure there are lots of people here who can help you unpick some of the things that are difficult for you. Personally, I am still waiting for my assessment, but there are a lot of older people here who have managed, diagnosed or self diagnosed, for a long time and whatever the issue, I'm sure some one is going to recognise it and have a suggestion or a helpful story of how they managed.
I certainly understand the feeling of suddenly making sense of my life; whatever my diagnosis turns out to be, the sensory issues are there and understanding them is helpful already. But also, I find it depressing that I will never be able to change that.
I can't help much with your job situation, sadly. But hopefully someone will have been in a similar career situation, or know where you can go to get the right support.