Newbie in need of advice

I don't have children but what Mum of 3 says sounds valuable.

I think part of the problem (with either apathy or agression) is not being able to categorize or name what is happening with oneself. And if the person has no good categories (typically these are words, but can be other symbols too) for emotions or moods, then they can't see the "pattern" behind all of it. By pattern I mean "A causes B", "misunderstanding causes frustration", "silence causes calmness", etc.

So in my (layperson's!) opinion, maybe you could help him by putting "obvious things" into words (or into his symbols)? That might make it easier for him to see the pattern what frustrates and what calms hi.

I have seen that with an autistic couple, they are always over-explicit, and it works well. They state their own current mood (tired, energetic, frustrated, distracted, etc), they repeat back what they thought that the other one meant, they calmly spell out what they expect in the household, etc.

In this context -- I saw a documentary about someone whose only speech was quotes from his favorite movies. I don't know anything about him (!), but I was wondering whether each scene maybe puts him in a certain mood (not necessarily the obvious one), and by quoting a scene, he tries to convey the mood he is in, or, the mood he wants to be in? This would be difficult to find out, because he might interpret movie scenes in his own way (say "this scene is happy because the colors match" or "this seen is frustrating because it has many cuts").

In any case, mood-related movie quotes is an example of what I mean above by "other symbols" for moods.

Feel free to contradict me, I'm merely brainstorming and I am not claiming that this is a fact.

I don't have children but what Mum of 3 says sounds valuable.

I think part of the problem (with either apathy or agression) is not being able to categorize or name what is happening with oneself. And if the person has no good categories (typically these are words, but can be other symbols too) for emotions or moods, then they can't see the "pattern" behind all of it. By pattern I mean "A causes B", "misunderstanding causes frustration", "silence causes calmness", etc.

So in my (layperson's!) opinion, maybe you could help him by putting "obvious things" into words (or into his symbols)? That might make it easier for him to see the pattern what frustrates and what calms hi.

I have seen that with an autistic couple, they are always over-explicit, and it works well. They state their own current mood (tired, energetic, frustrated, distracted, etc), they repeat back what they thought that the other one meant, they calmly spell out what they expect in the household, etc.

In this context -- I saw a documentary about someone whose only speech was quotes from his favorite movies. I don't know anything about him (!), but I was wondering whether each scene maybe puts him in a certain mood (not necessarily the obvious one), and by quoting a scene, he tries to convey the mood he is in, or, the mood he wants to be in? This would be difficult to find out, because he might interpret movie scenes in his own way (say "this scene is happy because the colors match" or "this seen is frustrating because it has many cuts").

In any case, mood-related movie quotes is an example of what I mean above by "other symbols" for moods.

Feel free to contradict me, I'm merely brainstorming and I am not claiming that this is a fact.