Hi, i am new to NAS.
We are aprents of part diagnosed 12yr old son(soon to be 13yrs old).
Our story goes;
My son started at his new secondry school Sept 2011, wow what shock to the system that was.
A full year of problems, naughtly behaviuors in the classroom, not listening to the teachers, grades falling. Constant negative report cards, parents evening"nice kid, shame about his behaviuor in the class, constant meetings to discuss his behaviour etc.
At the end of school year July 2012, we recieved his report and i cried when i read it and thought enough is enough.
I rang school and told his form teacher that i was very disappionted and this will need to change in the new term, i didn't feel school were doing everything they could to help him settle in school. Should this continue i will consider moving schools.
Within the first 3 wks of the new term, same old same old was happening again, this when we meet with school. it was suggested that my son was taken out of mainstream lessons and put in a respite class for 3months to assess what is going on for him.
From the respite class it became apparent that my son was still displaying the same behaviours. Thankfully one of the SEN teachers who knows her stuff in a short space of time she had raised her concerns with her senior. School recommended my son should be assessed by school psychologist.
A week ago we had a had a meeting with school &, psychologist. Her report and assessment of our son,is, he lacks social comunication skills(Aspergers). She recommended that if we required a formal daignosis then we need to go through our GP.
The information the psychologist gave has left us shell shocked to say the least.
Although i have heard of aspergers, i did not the full facts and i am sure i have much more to learn in this journey.
The fact that we as his parents didn't pick up on this, looking back now i can see alot of the signs.
What we have got to focus on understanding our son, socially he does struggle and is vunerable to peer pressure we have found out over the last 2 yrs. He is desparate for acceptance and friends who he thinks are cool, these have been very poorly judge friends on my sons part, on their part the easy prey(with talk of selling and using cannabis).
A few weeks ago he left us a note in the book he was susposed to writting down how is day had gone. The note said he was running away from home because his week had been that bad. We called the police, he didn't have a phone after dismantelling two of them. He doesn't have many friends, thankfully he gone to a friends house because it was to cold for him(he deosn't like being cold).
Since the winter and dark nights he has not been going out alot, staying in more. Sitting in his room either playing on his game or playing with his longstanding friend Lego.
He doesn't know how to tell you how his day as been, how he is feeling, takes comfort in his room, does not have many interest, spends alot of time in the bathroom/showering, at the moment if he goes out he only goes out for short time, very easily gets wound up by friends, he doesn,t understanding other peoples feelings, doesn,t under stand shouting when he, s done wrong, impatient not knowing how to wait his turn.
Does this make sense to alot of people on here?
What i hope to gain from this site, is advice and support to help us with our son and understand his world
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