How do partners feel?

Hello I was wondering if people on here would explain how there partners feel living with someone who has autism and adhd.

could the partners actually post how it affects them and what they do to overcome this.

currently myself and partner are struggling with communication due to my brain not working like hers and it annoys me when she points out that I’m not thinking logical.

I love my partner very much but this is causing massive problems.

I haven’t been diagnosed as of yet but my 2 boys have adhd and autism and I have many traits of both and waiting to be assessed.

I get stupid thoughts in my head then my brain runs away with them.

my worst traits are not being able to look people in the eyes, I miss things out when talking, I miss what the other person says, I get angry quick, take things the wrong way and lose my self in conversations very easy when I’m not intending to.

my partner says all she wants is to be able to have a conversation with a man and not a child by the way I react or get distracted.