Think my partner may have asperges and does not know

ask if he would be willing to go for a diagnosis for his benefit. 

has a plan on how to do it

Hi aidie i approached him about this and he was very much offended and upset.He knows he is dyslexic but says they would have picked up on asperges if he had that too 

You don't have to get him to admit to autism to talk about this or bring about change. You can explore each trait with him singularly. Obviously one at a time. This is what you'd have to do whether he is or isn't autistic, diagnosed or not. I can laugh at some of my traits when pointed out, but like most people can't do much about others, some of which will be autistic, and others just human. The key is building up your communications. All relationships have to do this at the 6-12 month stage. But also of it's not working for you, it's not working for you.

You don't have to get him to admit to autism to talk about this or bring about change. You can explore each trait with him singularly. Obviously one at a time. This is what you'd have to do whether he is or isn't autistic, diagnosed or not. I can laugh at some of my traits when pointed out, but like most people can't do much about others, some of which will be autistic, and others just human. The key is building up your communications. All relationships have to do this at the 6-12 month stage. But also of it's not working for you, it's not working for you.