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Crikey! There are a few of us now, aren't there??

I am not getting the notifications by email when people post, are you getting them, ladies? 

We are awaiting our son to be assessed but all the professionals involved think he will get a positive diagnosis for autism. Yesterday, 1 professional told me that it was a 'dead cert'. I had a complete melt-down and she thought it was because I had to come to terms with the condition in my son, but it wasn't - it was because I suddenly realised that I had to come to terms with my partner having it too. I am finding that much harder. I am used to sorting things out and getting things done, but I am at a loss here. How can I sort out my relationship when my partner is not N/T [neuro typical] and does not respond to the usual tactics and rationale???

Puffin - it sounds like we are in quite a similar situation. Do you happen to know how professionals make a decision whether it is aspergers or high function autism, because I am completely confused!!! There seems to be little agreement and much in common. When I read about aspergers, it describes my partner. But I think my little boy is much more high-function than aspergers. Does anyone know - do/can aspies hand-flap as my little boy does. It was the 1st thing that alerted me to his condition.

I am the opposite to you as I have told everyone about my son's condition! My reasoning is that I would rather people knew he was on the AS than think of him as naughty. This is what was happening at nursery and it was hard. I'm pleased to say that since then, other mummies have been really lovely by and large. Interested, concerned, friendly and inclusive. This has been a massive relief to me.

Hoping to speak to other ladies on this thread soon, but run out of wind now!

Love Rosemary xx

Crikey! There are a few of us now, aren't there??

I am not getting the notifications by email when people post, are you getting them, ladies? 

We are awaiting our son to be assessed but all the professionals involved think he will get a positive diagnosis for autism. Yesterday, 1 professional told me that it was a 'dead cert'. I had a complete melt-down and she thought it was because I had to come to terms with the condition in my son, but it wasn't - it was because I suddenly realised that I had to come to terms with my partner having it too. I am finding that much harder. I am used to sorting things out and getting things done, but I am at a loss here. How can I sort out my relationship when my partner is not N/T [neuro typical] and does not respond to the usual tactics and rationale???

Puffin - it sounds like we are in quite a similar situation. Do you happen to know how professionals make a decision whether it is aspergers or high function autism, because I am completely confused!!! There seems to be little agreement and much in common. When I read about aspergers, it describes my partner. But I think my little boy is much more high-function than aspergers. Does anyone know - do/can aspies hand-flap as my little boy does. It was the 1st thing that alerted me to his condition.

I am the opposite to you as I have told everyone about my son's condition! My reasoning is that I would rather people knew he was on the AS than think of him as naughty. This is what was happening at nursery and it was hard. I'm pleased to say that since then, other mummies have been really lovely by and large. Interested, concerned, friendly and inclusive. This has been a massive relief to me.

Hoping to speak to other ladies on this thread soon, but run out of wind now!

Love Rosemary xx