Hi everyone. im an adult recently diagnosed with aspergers in 2010. to be honest most of the help out there is geared towards children and parents of those with autism. My experience is most services people and charities dont know how to help adults with aspergers syndrome or symply dont care and say they should figure it all out themselves. I personally think thats a bit of a cop out. Anyway im here to make freinds i hope you all are having a good christmas period.
explorer said:I hope it's understood that my quote "Aspies look OK, sound OK so we must be OK. No need of support then" was not what I think, but the message we are getting by people who don't take the trouble to learn about AS.
It is as if we are being penalised for our ability to "camouflage", as Hohner so rightly puts it. The better we do it, the less support services seem to think we need, but fitting in is extremely stressful and often leads to high levels of anxiety & depression.
If we behave naturally, we are vulnerable to bullying and abuse, but if we "act normal" we suffer inside. It really makes the argument for raising public awareness about adult autism, so we can be ourselves AND be accepted. We have to tolerate people without autism and we do it well enough for them not to believe we have problems. Is it too much to expect them to be more accepting of us?
yip, thats exactly what i have noticed with my partner and it was obvious very early on that even people who say 'oh i know what autism is, i understand' they really have no frigging clue, they dont get that its a lot more than 'socially awkward and odd' and just how damaging it is for someone with autism to 'act normal'
even im still surprised by my partners ability to 'act normal' but then be autistic at home or do/say something that just shows hes not 'normal' in the way he acts
i have to say on our behalf tho, us nts are easily fooled, so we believe the act very easily , have you not noticed that 
haha
explorer said:I hope it's understood that my quote "Aspies look OK, sound OK so we must be OK. No need of support then" was not what I think, but the message we are getting by people who don't take the trouble to learn about AS.
It is as if we are being penalised for our ability to "camouflage", as Hohner so rightly puts it. The better we do it, the less support services seem to think we need, but fitting in is extremely stressful and often leads to high levels of anxiety & depression.
If we behave naturally, we are vulnerable to bullying and abuse, but if we "act normal" we suffer inside. It really makes the argument for raising public awareness about adult autism, so we can be ourselves AND be accepted. We have to tolerate people without autism and we do it well enough for them not to believe we have problems. Is it too much to expect them to be more accepting of us?
yip, thats exactly what i have noticed with my partner and it was obvious very early on that even people who say 'oh i know what autism is, i understand' they really have no frigging clue, they dont get that its a lot more than 'socially awkward and odd' and just how damaging it is for someone with autism to 'act normal'
even im still surprised by my partners ability to 'act normal' but then be autistic at home or do/say something that just shows hes not 'normal' in the way he acts
i have to say on our behalf tho, us nts are easily fooled, so we believe the act very easily , have you not noticed that haha
