Hi advice would be great

hi - I do think having strong emotional reactions to certain things can be part of being autistic + trying to control those emotions can be v difficult.  There's also learnt behaviour.  My son can get genuinely v upset at times. Now + then it can be calculated behaviour, such as being upset about something, but putting it on more to see if he can get his own way.  The "putting it on" doesn't happen often.   Also some of our children are emotionally younger than their years.  I think this is important because it's reflected in their behaviour.  When my son was living in the wrong environment for someone with autism he used to get terribly upset + self-harm.  Once out of that environment the self-harming stopped.  His emotional upset wd be rapidly followed by physical reactions such as sweating + rocking.  He wd wind up v quickly.  He's much happier now, has a lot more control over his own life so he isn't usually put into positions where he gets distressed.  Whilst we knew certain things upset him, it took a move to new accommodation before we got the full picture.  Once he was in a quieter less stressful environment with people who understood autism + him, a lot more became clear.  We went from that point.  We found a lot of his previous distress had been justifiable.  As an individual he likes a quieter environment, where he can do "his own thing" + be included in decision making.  He has an understanding that he has rights + he exercises them in a reasonable way.  So it might be worth looking at what may be the triggers for the behaviours.  bw

hi - I do think having strong emotional reactions to certain things can be part of being autistic + trying to control those emotions can be v difficult.  There's also learnt behaviour.  My son can get genuinely v upset at times. Now + then it can be calculated behaviour, such as being upset about something, but putting it on more to see if he can get his own way.  The "putting it on" doesn't happen often.   Also some of our children are emotionally younger than their years.  I think this is important because it's reflected in their behaviour.  When my son was living in the wrong environment for someone with autism he used to get terribly upset + self-harm.  Once out of that environment the self-harming stopped.  His emotional upset wd be rapidly followed by physical reactions such as sweating + rocking.  He wd wind up v quickly.  He's much happier now, has a lot more control over his own life so he isn't usually put into positions where he gets distressed.  Whilst we knew certain things upset him, it took a move to new accommodation before we got the full picture.  Once he was in a quieter less stressful environment with people who understood autism + him, a lot more became clear.  We went from that point.  We found a lot of his previous distress had been justifiable.  As an individual he likes a quieter environment, where he can do "his own thing" + be included in decision making.  He has an understanding that he has rights + he exercises them in a reasonable way.  So it might be worth looking at what may be the triggers for the behaviours.  bw