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Emms

Hello im new to all this and feeling a bit lost with everything, I have an 11 yr old son he is a lovely amazing special young man (most of the time) I have always had problems with him at home behavour, trouble with his older sister (the only sister he has trouble with he actually has 2 brothers and 4 sisters) but after moving house and i guess upsetting his routine trouble at school not being able to settle bad behavour at school ending in him having to be removed so far he has been asked to be removed from 2 schools and is looking to be taken out of the 1 he is in now due to behavour he is not a bad child and all the teachers agree with me im trying very hard to get him assesed no 1 really wants to help i had 1 professional tell me he couldnt have aspergers as he makes eye contact with me and got extremely upset when his temper problems were talked about. Reading the information on here its like reading a book on my son. It is tearing my family apart at the moment because we just dont no where to go what help we can get for him we seem to walk around on egg shells around him. I could go on and on about what his behavour is like but to be honest i dont no where to start all i do know is im at the end of my tether he is getting bigger stronger and its scary when he goes off. Any advice would be wonderful.

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    Hi Emms,

    I've been through similar with my son. I've spent a lot of time and money repairing our house and its' contents. I've had to lock away knives and matches. I've been a verbal and physical punchbag and the "bad parent police" have done their judging. The child and adolescent mental health team told me he had Aspergers when he was nine. They wanted to put him on medication - we refused this, I've been down that road, am still on it and we've muddled along on our own. However he's gone through something of a transformation this year - he's now 14 - and is doing really well. I'm not entirely sure why this is but I think diet has helped. He's developed an obssession with health and fitness and has cut out all "junk". He only eats home made additive free food and has replaced sweets with fresh fruit. I've always banged on about chemical additives in food as I believe they really do affect behaviour. Also he's upped his sports and exercise which is great for relieving pent up frustration. His school work is great and he's being moved up in his classes. I think my own recent diagnosis of Aspergers has helped him also - he's no longer the "only one in the world" with it and we can work through it together - blind leading the blind maybe! I now feel much more confident about our future - things can, and do improve.

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    Anonymous

    Hi Emms,

    I've been through similar with my son. I've spent a lot of time and money repairing our house and its' contents. I've had to lock away knives and matches. I've been a verbal and physical punchbag and the "bad parent police" have done their judging. The child and adolescent mental health team told me he had Aspergers when he was nine. They wanted to put him on medication - we refused this, I've been down that road, am still on it and we've muddled along on our own. However he's gone through something of a transformation this year - he's now 14 - and is doing really well. I'm not entirely sure why this is but I think diet has helped. He's developed an obssession with health and fitness and has cut out all "junk". He only eats home made additive free food and has replaced sweets with fresh fruit. I've always banged on about chemical additives in food as I believe they really do affect behaviour. Also he's upped his sports and exercise which is great for relieving pent up frustration. His school work is great and he's being moved up in his classes. I think my own recent diagnosis of Aspergers has helped him also - he's no longer the "only one in the world" with it and we can work through it together - blind leading the blind maybe! I now feel much more confident about our future - things can, and do improve.

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