Hi i am a newbie

hi maria71.  Sometimes the more people there are in a house the more difficult it can be, especially to stick to a routine.  I was a single mum with my son until he was 9.  Sometimes you don't even realise you have a routine, but looking back we did. If his routine was disrupted, sometimes because I didn't "get it", he'd get really upset.  As he didn't talk till he was 5 I couldn't work out sometimes what the matter was.  Also he didn't + still doesn't like others disrupting his routine or his "me time".  He does respond to rewards, as long as they're good enough, of course!  I also know what it's like when a partner disagrees with things.  Talk about being stuck between 2 stools.  Seems to make it 10 times worse.  End up trying to educate your partner/husband on top of everything else.  More stress.  I think calendars, pictures, anything that your son can look at day to day so he knows what his day will consist of is useful.  I know all this is easier said than done.  A normal household (to us) can be chaotic to a person with asd......so much going on, so many unpredictable things.

hi maria71.  Sometimes the more people there are in a house the more difficult it can be, especially to stick to a routine.  I was a single mum with my son until he was 9.  Sometimes you don't even realise you have a routine, but looking back we did. If his routine was disrupted, sometimes because I didn't "get it", he'd get really upset.  As he didn't talk till he was 5 I couldn't work out sometimes what the matter was.  Also he didn't + still doesn't like others disrupting his routine or his "me time".  He does respond to rewards, as long as they're good enough, of course!  I also know what it's like when a partner disagrees with things.  Talk about being stuck between 2 stools.  Seems to make it 10 times worse.  End up trying to educate your partner/husband on top of everything else.  More stress.  I think calendars, pictures, anything that your son can look at day to day so he knows what his day will consist of is useful.  I know all this is easier said than done.  A normal household (to us) can be chaotic to a person with asd......so much going on, so many unpredictable things.