Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi everyone!
I'm a gay man who's partner of just over ten years has been officially diagnosed earlier this year. This has mostly come as great relief, as it explains so many of the issues we've both been becoming increasingly aware of during our time together.
However, I must admit that I'm often struggling to know how to deal with challenging situations. In particular, there are major communication issues that regularly cause problems - often we may as well be speaking completely different languages. It gets emotionally draining and I really feel like I need help, or at least to be able to talk with other people in the same kind of situation.
yess 100% you must read Tony Attwood he is absolutely amazing. There must be some kind of support group in your area for partners or carers of people with ASD? i feel that will be far more beneficial that just forums.
What is important is also to let yourself feel fed up and exhausted and angry, it is ok to feel all of these things, you are a person who also has needs. it is not just about helping your boyfriend but also about helping yourself and seeking the support that you need. I commend your commitment to being a supportive partner and i take my hat off to you, it isn't easy and i hope that you guys can find a way to work around the communication and your new understanding together of his neurodiversity. You are not alone.
Tony Attwood will be doing a lectures in London soonish? he is going to sooth your soul, however the majority of information on ASD/NT relationships are mostly going to be from straight relationships so a lot of it is from the female perspective and i know sometimes that can be really frustrating as you have yourself a statistical double unicorn who is also from outer space.
here is a little interview with Attwood in regards to NT/ASD marriages and he gives some resources here https://youtu.be/v-Uqm74g2ew
his ask tony page http://www.autismhangout.com/
he has loads of books and videos :)