I am very concern the way i am being treated by my specialist as I felt they are forcing to adapt the normal enviroment and i am very traumatizing. I had been hurting myself alot these night with lots of bruises and cant sleep due to the depression.
my specialist had been forcing me to put down my special interest in disney characters, fairy tale and costumed characters and adapt the mainstream enviroment. they even force me to interact with someone I don't like (my peers). My peers loves things like sport and watching television whcih i don't like.
In my world, i like playing with the children and we play together around my area with toys and dolls. the reason i like interacting with the children because they share interest like me. but my specialist is forcing me not to hang out with them because of age difference eventhought no one mind about it. their parent don't bother about this and no one care about this. but they still force me not to hang out with someone who shares interest like me while interact with someone don't have interest like me. they are doing this to me because of my age and i feel like they are bullying me.
i am very traumatized but no adult are listening to me as they all are on my specialist side just because this lady is a therapist. if i talk to my parent about it, they will punnish me for not being greatful to my specialist. I have no one on my side. I need help.
I am being forced to adapting an enviroment that i don't like. I am very very traumatized.
Does anyone here is on myside and think it's okay of what i like to be doing as i need help.
reminder i am someone at my very late teen.
i agree with you. in my life, i've been hurt by my therapist alot. they are here to help me but help me to be uncomfortable like grounding me from out playing with my little friends who have share my interest, puting down my special nterest and adapting the enviroment. and if i complained, my parent would give out. that's like communist in my autistic world. my therapist are taking over my autisitc world and mistreat me just like when communist took over russia and mistreated the people.
and based on "these are fears for my therapist", 1st are these kids are my therapist's children, no, if she that worry, could she explain to the neighbour that i have autism and make them understand what is autism and she should not be controlling my life. these kids parent dont even worried about this and if we know each other for so long, why is this a problem. like why is the police will get invovle for just being friends with someone at different age. like that's agism. police usually arrest someone who only commit crimes but this is not a crime. to exaggerate this, when kids are told about stranger safty, a stranger wouldnt be arrested for just interacting with the children unless they had sexually assaulted the children which i'm not the person who like taking interest on children. no i'm not.
in my opinion, she shouldnt be taking over my life and ruin my life. if i still go out and play today, i should be free to go out and play with children and it should not be stopped unless some one dont like it. and no one else mind and if they did, they would had don't like me since i was 16 but this did not happened.
and why this is not life, i am autistic, she should not force me to do things to comfort her worries which result not allow me to be outplaying and forcing me to put down my disney characters and fairy tales and adapt the normal enviroment and to be with someone who does not comfort me. no that's not the society for an autistic person. i even knew some autistic young adult still interact with children who are not in their family.
like hans christian anderson was autistic but undiagnosed and he did the same things like i did, he never had any problem afterward. then like today, autism are getting best understanding than anderson's time and i got diagnosed with autism at age of 3, so what's the problem with how i interact with children.
the right way for the therapist is to stop grounding me, respect my world, and i want to go out and play, just leave it the way it is and if she worries, then just tell the parents to understand my autism.
but these parent knew i am autistic and that's my nature to be hanging out with someone who has my special interest, not someone at their age so that's why i am hanging out with their children so they dont even bother about it. like i know many adults are friends with children who are not part of their family.
I can understand that you feel angry about your therapist and parents asking you to stop doing what you enjoy and have been enjoying for a long time.
They are trying to explain that Peter Pan is a fictitious character who unfortunately cannot exist in real life.
Have you ever though that your love of Disney and fairy tales might be an asset. How about using your love and knowledge of these things to entertain children at birthday parties and children in care homes? You must have developed quite an insight into what it is about these characters and tales that children really enjoy.
just want to know why having autism cant be a freepass of anything. why they still need to follow the social rule eventhought they have problem with social integration or the social rule are hurting them like age difference rules, age expectance and things like that. why can autistic people just do what comfort them and dont grow. you see, i hate my therapist. she is very nasty.
like as you read the stop playing with kids just because of age difference, do you know hans christian anderson was autistic high functioning. but he was undiagnosed but he did the same like me, interacting with children as an adult and these children are not his children or his family. but look at back in those day, would people know what is autism? no they dont but nothing happen to anderson just because he was interacting with other kids. but like nowaday, people should have a better understanding of autism, so like if i went out and play with my little friends, then it should be much fine than anderson's time.
so what's wrong with that therapist. she is even not fit for helping autism except being mena to them and torutre them with the society expectation being agist and slave me to do something i hate like have to interacting with my disgusting peers while the younger children are the king of fairy tales characters while i cant interact with them.
well i am autistic, so why do i have to follow the social structure based on my age. very agist
Do you know the story of the son of the writer, Ron Suskind? His name is Owen, he is autistic and, like you, he is fascinated by Disney characters. A film was made about him, you can find it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v8d4RxkHZ6s
Perhaps you should tell your therapist to watch it. It is a lovely short film.
Unfortunately, society has moved on since Hans Christian Andersen’s time and there are a lot more ruses in place surrounding contact with children. Also, autism is an invisible disability and there won’t always be other adults around to explain your behaviour.
Your parents and your therapist are just trying to prepare you for the future. I’m not siding with them, I’m just trying to explain their perspective to you.
As @I’mdonewithChristmasCards said, perhaps you would benefit from a different approach or a different therapist, but I suspect the end goals may be similar i.e. to modify the nature of your relationships and interactions with children.
However unfair it may feel, having autism does not give you a free pass to behave as you wish. What if an autistic person’s special interest was something more malign? Should they be excused from breaking the law? These are really complicated issues and something society is generally not well-equipped to deal with. Educating the public en masse will take time, so in the mean time your parents and therapist are just trying to do what they can to protect you from this unjust world.
Can you meet them halfway?
*rules (not “ruses” in the first paragraph). Seriously, what is it with auto-correct on these forums? Does anyone else have this problem with the last iPhone update?
This forum is hard work on a phone so I tend to be on my pc when I'm here - and I use the "edit post" menu item *a lot* :-).
what is malign? yes autism is a free pass for playing with children. human are human. society should not be judging human by age and i am doing what right for me, not a slave for the society. how could you judge me breaking the law just because playing with someone younger than me. that's ridiculous, i never heard of law like that. like that's not hurting anyone. the kids dont mind and the adult dont mind. well i will never forgive my therapist. she is taking over my life. she should be resign from my world and i'm going to enjoy playing with the children as long they dont mind and their parent dont mind. their parent do know i have autism and the legal law do have justice for autism.and as i said to exaggerate this, like even a grown stranger wont be arrested just because they are approaching other children unless they had sexually harmed them which you know i'm not that kind of person. do you know these children i've been in contact for a long time. their parent even said "that's alright playing with the children as long as you are happy. it just an age difference." when i told them that because i have autism, i get on well with children better than my peers.