Published on 12, July, 2020
Some background information my brother was diagnosed with Aspergers recently at 16 years of age. Since then I have been reading up and here are my potential autistic traits (not seeking a diagnosis particularly) when I go in the kitchen (hard floor) I walk on my tiptoes, I dont have to I just prefer it, I have always been a fussy eater and now at 22 I have realised its because of textures, carrots were too hard meat too stringy, all I ate was chicken nuggets and sausage meat wise as it was clearly softer and less offensive to me, also food couldnt touch for example beans couldnt touch chips (im now fine although the broken beans I still avoid lol) I tend to enjoy social situations but after 2 hours or so I need me time to recharge otherwise I get insanely jittery and on edge and snappy, I have always thought I had super touch sensitivity lol I felt as though I could tell if something or someone was touching me when others wouldnt notice the stimulus, That leads me to now. I am 22 and always thought I was asexual until I started dating other men, I have not had sex with anyone yet but have noticed some interesting things. I am wondering are my reactions not asexuality but instead autism and sensory overload? basically being touched in some areas such as my nipples is too intense, I didnt even realise guys felt things there, but the stimulus is overwhelming. Hugging and being close is beautiful its such a nice feeling. Kissing I can do for my partner but it gives me no sexual pleasure and ends up where im going through the motions methodologically until they seem content. I do get aroused very quickly and frequently by being touched delicately and even a nice hug.
Question is does this sound like some sort of sensory overload and potential autism thing? or am I just a bit asexual? or both?
Any tips would also be nice. I really like this guy. he knows im not super sexual and to take things slow.
Thanks guys :)
PS. Also I dont mean to take away from anyone else, its just autism is on a spectrum so maybe I have very very slight traits? Also the sensory overload during sexual things is like irritability and say being stroked too much it just gets overwhelming and I feel like im screaming inside stop stop stop because its all I can focus on, at other times or other things can be okay but some things at some times can be too much.
short answer is Yes to autism I would say. ( i am not an expert lets say I am 80% sure ) Asexual bit no idea. Both is of couse possible. ( asexual person with autism ).
that is very interesting thank you! do you think I should do anything about it or just carry on? Should I mention any of this to my new potential partner?
there are some jobs where autism rules u out eg army navy RAF so dont get a diagnosis if that is where u want to work.
no need to mention to new partner for a while at least. See if he notices your oddities and brings it up. that is useful evidence to you and to mention in a diagnosis.
Getting a diagnosis helped me quite a bit, as it explained some of my bad behaviours which I didn't ever like. It has made me more stable because i know what i have and can get help from right people like in here. I needed a diagnosis for my work to explain my resistance to change and the different way I learn and react. Autism is very personal in that it effects each person differently but you will hear people in hear says things that are exactly like u which is comforting and u can get tips / tricks/ work-arounds. I watch videos online mainly youtube of personal experiences of autistic people as well.
Getting a diagnosis varies greatly depending on where you live in some places it seems a real pain mine was ok but i was in still in shock for a month afterwards.
I also got my diagnosis to show that my nephew ( ASD ) he is not the only one in our family and so my children are aware its around in our family.
oh that is a great point, I am doing a masters in zoo conservation biology so I should be fine :) yes I may wait and see, I think I am still learning to associate some of my behaviours as potentially being autistic. That is awesome I am happy a diagnosis has helped you out! I am sure you will continue moving forward in a positive direction :) Yes I think more people need educating that it is a spectrum disorder and to keep an eye out for it in kids.