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Newly diagnosed ASD for my son aged 9

Kazzie

Hi everyone

I am new here and my son is newly diagnosed with ASD, query ADHD, and fine motor dyspraxia.  If you saw him now, there's nothing to 'see'. If you spoke to him now he'd reply very eloquently, in fact he'd speak first and you'd be hard pressed to get a word in edge ways.  He has no apparent learning difficulties cognitively though he's extremely slow at writing. He's smiley and very socialable hence nobody could see where I was coming from with my concerns for such a long time, and his school still doesn't. We were disgnosed on Friday and I am going into school to tell them in the morning, ahead of the consultant's letter.  They've never said that he's naughty, in fact they are steadfast that he's not, but they've often said he's hyper sensitive, immature, short attention, talks far too much in class and so in went on...... People around us have all said that he can't possibly be ASD because of the social perception of autism of being withdrawn, no/little speech etc (their words, not mine).  All I want is for the necessary allowances made for him that he needs.  I want school to try and understand him and work with him and to stop shouting at him all of the time.  He often asks what he's done so wrong for everyone to get at him all of the time.  The part that has really broken my heart is that all this time, his constant, incessant talking for which he is notorious for, is due to high anxiety. I knew that he talked most when near the people that he believed didn't like him and he is very much a 'people pleaser' but he's been told off so much for this, how do I make them stop shouting?  How do I go from being labelled an over anxious Mum to being listened to as the Mum of a boy diagnosed with ASD?  I'm not convinced now, that his school is where he should stay but how do I find a school that will be good for him?  What questions and signs should I look for in a good school for ASD children? From year 7 onwards I am happy because the school he will go to is noted for it's facilities and ethos towards SEN both academically and the emotional/social needs, but that's 2 years away and even another term is too long for my little man to be unhappy!

I have older children, 2 girls aged 11 and 17 and they are great with their brother.

Bit of a long intro, oops, sorry :0)

Kazzie x

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  • Thank you Someone. The consultant is writing to school but told me to tell them in the meantime to get the ball rolling.

    Yes it is the staff shouting at him and have even had to call me, to tell me how upset he's been in the past but they still did it. He has been diagnosed with hyper sensory processing so you are quite right, he has noise sensitivity. I've now told him to put his hands over his ears if they shout and I am going to tell them that if he does that, he must not be told off for it. 

    Thank  you for your advice about giving them info :0)

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  • Thank you Someone. The consultant is writing to school but told me to tell them in the meantime to get the ball rolling.

    Yes it is the staff shouting at him and have even had to call me, to tell me how upset he's been in the past but they still did it. He has been diagnosed with hyper sensory processing so you are quite right, he has noise sensitivity. I've now told him to put his hands over his ears if they shout and I am going to tell them that if he does that, he must not be told off for it. 

    Thank  you for your advice about giving them info :0)

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