Hi everyone
I am new here and my son is newly diagnosed with ASD, query ADHD, and fine motor dyspraxia. If you saw him now, there's nothing to 'see'. If you spoke to him now he'd reply very eloquently, in fact he'd speak first and you'd be hard pressed to get a word in edge ways. He has no apparent learning difficulties cognitively though he's extremely slow at writing. He's smiley and very socialable hence nobody could see where I was coming from with my concerns for such a long time, and his school still doesn't. We were disgnosed on Friday and I am going into school to tell them in the morning, ahead of the consultant's letter. They've never said that he's naughty, in fact they are steadfast that he's not, but they've often said he's hyper sensitive, immature, short attention, talks far too much in class and so in went on...... People around us have all said that he can't possibly be ASD because of the social perception of autism of being withdrawn, no/little speech etc (their words, not mine). All I want is for the necessary allowances made for him that he needs. I want school to try and understand him and work with him and to stop shouting at him all of the time. He often asks what he's done so wrong for everyone to get at him all of the time. The part that has really broken my heart is that all this time, his constant, incessant talking for which he is notorious for, is due to high anxiety. I knew that he talked most when near the people that he believed didn't like him and he is very much a 'people pleaser' but he's been told off so much for this, how do I make them stop shouting? How do I go from being labelled an over anxious Mum to being listened to as the Mum of a boy diagnosed with ASD? I'm not convinced now, that his school is where he should stay but how do I find a school that will be good for him? What questions and signs should I look for in a good school for ASD children? From year 7 onwards I am happy because the school he will go to is noted for it's facilities and ethos towards SEN both academically and the emotional/social needs, but that's 2 years away and even another term is too long for my little man to be unhappy!
I have older children, 2 girls aged 11 and 17 and they are great with their brother.
Bit of a long intro, oops, sorry :0)
Kazzie x
, id explain that shouting doesnt work with asd and infact will probably only serve to stress and frustrate him even more as well as them due to the fact asd usually comes along with sensitivty to noises