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Hello! 

I was diagnosed in 2017. It didn't seem real to me somehow and it took some time to accept the diagnosis. I can also relate to the self-neglect too although in my case it was because I didn't know why I was 'failing' with so many things. It's still a lot to accept even if it does make a lot of sense. 

I’ve also had the ‘failing’ feelings too, especially when it comes to friendships and realitonships. Just got to try and remember to be kinder to ourselves.

It's so hard to do because I'm always reminded by family of other people's achievements. The feeling of failure is getting worse now as I am 30 this year and feel like I have done nothing with my life so far. I will just have to try harder, I guess. 

Totally agree, the things that NTs count as everyday behaviour are achievements to us.

I can totally understand that, as I have compared myself a lot to people and there achievements, between working (I don’t work) getting married or buying a house, having babies etc. I didn’t go to university until I was 30 (I’m now 45) total mistake, didn’t know then that I had ASD. I got through it but it was a waste of time. I think we tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be like ‘ordinary’ people because we are told that’s how we are meant to be in society. You do what you can and don’t put pressure on yourself too much :) 

Maybe you have achieved a lot more than you think? It is always difficult to compare achievements with what other people have done. For example, I consider it a big achievement if I go to a work event of some sort and manage to speak to three people. I know that is a massive challenge for me so it is a big achievement - even if for someone else they would not consider it to be a big deal at all.

Maybe you have achieved a lot more than you think? It is always difficult to compare achievements with what other people have done. For example, I consider it a big achievement if I go to a work event of some sort and manage to speak to three people. I know that is a massive challenge for me so it is a big achievement - even if for someone else they would not consider it to be a big deal at all.

Totally agree, the things that NTs count as everyday behaviour are achievements to us.