I'm Jade and i'm currently undergoing an autistic spectrum diagnosis, i currently have ADHD and dyspraxia too. I find it very difficult to make friends, i really struggle to maintain friendships and get really depressed and angry when i see other people happy doing things that i should be able to do.
I have many interests, I feel like people get bored of me but i'm not sure if they do or why they do.
Does anyone else experience this or am i alone?
Yes Jade, it's just you. In fact, I am already bored of you. Bye.
Although.... now I think about it.... it's not at all uncommon. I often ask my OH if she's bored with my current one-sided conversation and she'll either say yes or no - I don't take offence if she is bored because I know it happens.
I get more amused than annoyed when others are clearly bored - real friends can be bored and still like you. We are harder to be friends with so the ones that stick around are worth it and can be life long.
A high percentage of people on the spectrum have a super power, and others are unhappy that they don't have that power.
I feel just like you. I'm still waiting for ASD diagnosis, but at this point, I'm already sure I'm somewhere in the spectrum.
I have always found difficult making and keeping friends. Actually, who keeps the friendship are my friends because I'm unable to contact them, just don't know what to say.
At this point of my life, I realised that I'm not evil or mad or boring...I'm a good, kind person, funny sometimes, with lots of interests as you, I just don't have natural social abilities. I try to remember this as a mantra every time I feel sad, I hope it helps you as well.
Hello Jade and welcome to the forum,
The feelings you describe are quite commonly expressed by those on the ’spectrum.’
One possible avenue of improving your well being is to join a class that teaches Tai Chi, Qigong or Yoga. If you can find a class that also teaches meditation all the better.
Watching someone perform movements and then trying to imitate those movements yourself, can help with sensorimotor difficulties that are associated with autism - motor performance and proprioceptive and vestibular processing.
Practised meditators are known to have smaller amygdalae, this is the part of the brain known as the fight or flight area. So a smaller amygdala results in less anxiety. Meditation also enables one to change from what is called the DMN (Default Mode Network) to the TPN (Task Positive Network.) Only one of these networks can be active at any given time. They can’t both be active at the same time. The DMN is used to think about the past and future, when the TPN is active one is thinking about the here and now - present. So being being able to switch to the TPN with ease helps stop rumination and overthinking your worries. All the best with your diagnosis, Graham
Candlewax said:A high percentage of people on the spectrum have a super power, and others are unhappy that they don't have that power.
Could you possibly link to the science behind that observation. Thanks, Clark Kent.
I'm not allowed to. It destroys worlds and causes mass panic. I can give an example though. I managed to work out when changing the profile name here, it's white text on a white background.
Ah. Double blind science. I suspect you have left it in the glove compartment of the batmobile.