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Arabella

Hello,

I'm a thirty one year old female who was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome a couple of months ago. Although I'm glad to finally have an answer to the question "why am I the way I am?", I'm still no better off in the sense that there's no support groups in my region or people I can communicate with who understand when things fall apart. I'd really appreciate some advice such as how to cope with meltdowns (had one today and wasn't until I got home and closed the door that I finally managed to calm down). Things get pretty lonely and find it nion impossible to make friends. I've been dithering about for a while now, trying to pluck up the courage to introduce myself on this site. I'm not really sure what to do or say. Would really like to meet like minded people who can offer support and possibly be a help to others who have had similar experiences.

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  • thanks Laughingi do love him, more than anything, but i wont lie im here for myself too as its not been easy especially recently due to life changes ,so i came on here in the hope of aleviating even a wee bit of my stress

    ah yes meeting new people and trying to explain aspergers to them, not easy, even people you know don't always get it, sorry you went through that, but its all about learning eh, you just try to take some of what you learned and use it next time

    we've come close over the years to breaking up, but we both want to be together it's not like we dont love each other it's just hard sometimes with each of our individual issues

    melt downs are a new concept to me, i didnt realise he had them untill i thought about it and i can think of a few times i would class him as having one, tho back then we didn't know he had aspergers so it was tough 

    at least now that we know it makes it easier to deal with them, i tend to just stay out his way till he calms down, or if he is stressed /upset not frustrated i just let him do what he needs to

    its kind of a funny irony that all these years i was putting up with (and whinging about of course Wink) his obsession with computer games, and it turns out thats the one thing he can use to relax, so nowadays thats what i leave him to do

    it doesn't leave a lot of time for me, but he makes up for that by just being him, loving me and lots of prezzies haha

    i can tell you the same thing i have said since we learned it, before even, that hes the most interesting person i have ever met, and im sure thats the case with a lot of autistics and their other halvs, the way autistics view the world is , different, to how we nts do, and a good few of us appreciate thatSmile

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  • thanks Laughingi do love him, more than anything, but i wont lie im here for myself too as its not been easy especially recently due to life changes ,so i came on here in the hope of aleviating even a wee bit of my stress

    ah yes meeting new people and trying to explain aspergers to them, not easy, even people you know don't always get it, sorry you went through that, but its all about learning eh, you just try to take some of what you learned and use it next time

    we've come close over the years to breaking up, but we both want to be together it's not like we dont love each other it's just hard sometimes with each of our individual issues

    melt downs are a new concept to me, i didnt realise he had them untill i thought about it and i can think of a few times i would class him as having one, tho back then we didn't know he had aspergers so it was tough 

    at least now that we know it makes it easier to deal with them, i tend to just stay out his way till he calms down, or if he is stressed /upset not frustrated i just let him do what he needs to

    its kind of a funny irony that all these years i was putting up with (and whinging about of course Wink) his obsession with computer games, and it turns out thats the one thing he can use to relax, so nowadays thats what i leave him to do

    it doesn't leave a lot of time for me, but he makes up for that by just being him, loving me and lots of prezzies haha

    i can tell you the same thing i have said since we learned it, before even, that hes the most interesting person i have ever met, and im sure thats the case with a lot of autistics and their other halvs, the way autistics view the world is , different, to how we nts do, and a good few of us appreciate thatSmile

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