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Arabella

Hello,

I'm a thirty one year old female who was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome a couple of months ago. Although I'm glad to finally have an answer to the question "why am I the way I am?", I'm still no better off in the sense that there's no support groups in my region or people I can communicate with who understand when things fall apart. I'd really appreciate some advice such as how to cope with meltdowns (had one today and wasn't until I got home and closed the door that I finally managed to calm down). Things get pretty lonely and find it nion impossible to make friends. I've been dithering about for a while now, trying to pluck up the courage to introduce myself on this site. I'm not really sure what to do or say. Would really like to meet like minded people who can offer support and possibly be a help to others who have had similar experiences.

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  • Thankyou for replying to my message. I'm so glad that you're here on this site for the sake of your partner. You must really love him/her and I have a great deal of respect for you. I know from the things my mom has had to deal with that it'll no doubt be tough; then again having Asperger's or autism doesn't define a person, just like being a person of another culture doesn't define who they are. Everybody with Asperger's is different with a unique personality.

    You're right about limiting exposure to stressful situations and as I said to Scorpion0x17, I'm trying to slow down my pace in life. I'd actually met somebody online, everything happened so quickly, they came to visit and even though I tried to explain about having Asperger's syndrome they couldn't quite grasp it. As a result I had a terrible meltdown and stopped contacting them. I think patience and understanding are definitely necessary attributes for a successful relationship in general, let alone with an Aspie. I hope it all goes well for both of you.

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  • Thankyou for replying to my message. I'm so glad that you're here on this site for the sake of your partner. You must really love him/her and I have a great deal of respect for you. I know from the things my mom has had to deal with that it'll no doubt be tough; then again having Asperger's or autism doesn't define a person, just like being a person of another culture doesn't define who they are. Everybody with Asperger's is different with a unique personality.

    You're right about limiting exposure to stressful situations and as I said to Scorpion0x17, I'm trying to slow down my pace in life. I'd actually met somebody online, everything happened so quickly, they came to visit and even though I tried to explain about having Asperger's syndrome they couldn't quite grasp it. As a result I had a terrible meltdown and stopped contacting them. I think patience and understanding are definitely necessary attributes for a successful relationship in general, let alone with an Aspie. I hope it all goes well for both of you.

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