Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone,
I've been recently diagnosed with an ASD, high performing / Asperger type..exact details are yet to be reported.
I really want to socialise and be a part of the society. But keeping up the pretense is so exhausting. How can i survive an entire party? (yes seriously considering attending a Christmas party!) I find it difficult to understand why people do party and mingle, I don't see the benefit and all i ever get is really tired and stressed out...but i know i must socialize otherwise i'll turn into a recluse. the irony is this is something I really want to do but it feels like i'm just causing myself agony and anguish for no reason....does anyone have any helpful advice and coping strategies??
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> does anyone have any helpful advice and coping strategies
Take a good book and a comfortable fold-up chair?
I can appreciate you feel the need to socialise, and that's fine and natural. But if you know parties stress you out, why put yourself through it for the sake of it? I tend to duck out of things now where I know there are going to be too many people for me. People seem to be happy if I apologise and just say sorry, but I think that will be too many people for me.
Try and find social activities that you'll actually enjoy rather than ones that are a hellish exercise in stamina would be my advice.
ha ha ha ...fantastic i love your sense of humor. yes I agree and know that what you say has some truth to it. I have not been to a party in 10 + years, and I've been single for far too long. So I'm willing to put myself under a tad more stress than comfortable.....i think plenty of 'fresh air' breaks will be on order.