Published on 12, July, 2020
hi
I’m 55 married women with 2 grown up married daughters and 2 grandsons. I have just had my report feed back from my assessment.
I am relieved to finally understand my life. I have had problems with friendship,family and work colleagues all my life . School was hell and i was seen at the child physiology unit at my local hospital in the mid 1977 and was told I had anxiety and panic attacks .
I decided to look at autism as a possibility 2 years ago after my eldest grandson stayed having problems at school with mixing with other children that sounded very familiar to ne and the school asked my daughter about referring for assessment earlier this year .
I hope that i will be able to be there for him helping to find help and support through life that i would of loved at the time.
my husband has been my biggest help since we have been together since he was 17 and i was 19 so 36 years of marriage my mother said he would need the patience of a saint to put up with me and he does . He has made life with him and my daughters so much better than I could of hoped for even when my mega meltdowns have caused huge problems.
I would still prefer not to mix , socialise or go out if it wasn’t for my close family.
I always never no when to shut up
Thank you for your reply . Nice to know I’m not the only grandmother going through this process.
Congratulations on getting your diagnosis. For many autistic people it seems to make a real difference to how they understand themselves and their lives. Like you say it is a relief to know there is a reason.
I'm 58, mum of two and granny to one. I have just started the autism assessment process myself - next meeting coming up on Monday. All the indications are that I am probably autistic (AQ/EQ, checklists for autistic women, career history, absence of friends...).
My motivation for getting a diagnosis seems similar to yours. As well as finding peace by understanding my life better, I want to be able to help my children and granddaughter if they experience the same struggles I have.
Your last sentence made me smile! I was almost mute at school and college but this changed in my 20s when my job forced me to talk to people. My main problems seem to be going into too much detail, digressing in ways that confuse the other person and saying things which are too honest.
My husband and my dog are my only true friends. I enjoy seeing my children and granddaughter occasionally (they don't live nearby). My relationship with my parents and siblings is not that close geographically or emotionally. I am quite literally the 'odd one out'!
Lovely to meet you.