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I'm new, boyfriend has autism, want advice

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my boyfriend has autism and aspergers and he has never been in a relationship before and doesn't know anything about having a girlfriend or how relationships work, how can I help him understand about it in a way that he will understand and wont get confused?

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  • in reply to Trogluddite

    Conversation can often go off topic! That's part of the fun of it.

    I was talking in the context of that exact thing, there is less malice and less agenda. I've been called "weird" all my life by people. There's "good" and "bad" weird though. My one friends son would always say "Cloudy's mad!" with a grin. I'd always be goofy and he never meant it in a bad way. He liked the way I'd explain stuff he was learning for school in a goofy way. "Weird" can be fun for people, it's not necessarily negative for me.

    I've got 5 godchildren. They all like my company. I think! On several occasions my friend has said "How do you get them to listen to you?". I said "Because I speak to them like equals, and listen to them like equals too". Kids don't get enough credit sometimes. I always liked spending time with my grandfather better than all the other adults because he'd listen and explain things to me like I was another adult. There was that level of "I'm an adult, behave" but he'd let me contribute to conversations, and explain consequences to my actions rather than just bark orders. That sunk in more.

    If someone's a kid and is talking sense they should be acknowledged. I think it's very beneficial for their development and self-esteem.