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Muttering Nutter
over 5 years ago

Hi folks!

Basically looking for support and advice for and on behalf of my two young adult high functioning sons (22 and 20 yrs old) .

Elder son was diagnosed 10 years ago. He rarely leaves his room, is socially isolated, lost most of his friends,dropped out of Uni and is anxious and depressed. He is awake all night and sleeps all day and doesnt eat properly. He refuses any help offered by various organisations or GP.

Younger son was, finally, (looong story!) diagnosed just two years ago.He is at least working and has a group of friends he's had since primary school but suffers from real social anxiety, depression and has real problems with comminication. He has a support worker but that is due to end in Nov.

Seems theres a lot of support for Autistic children but not a lot once they reach adulthood!

So id be really grateful for any advice and help.

Thanks very much.

Parents
  • over 5 years ago

    Hello and welcome. I like the user name.

    I'm not quite clear what you want advice on. No, there are very few autism-specific post-diagnostic statutory services.  I can relate to your descriptions, particularly being depressed like your older son at that age.... although I'm not sure I would have refused help. Does he not accept the diagnosis? Or has he had bad experiences with professionals? Some kind of outside activity would presumably help. Is there anything he's interested in where he could volunteer?

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  • over 5 years ago

    Hello and welcome. I like the user name.

    I'm not quite clear what you want advice on. No, there are very few autism-specific post-diagnostic statutory services.  I can relate to your descriptions, particularly being depressed like your older son at that age.... although I'm not sure I would have refused help. Does he not accept the diagnosis? Or has he had bad experiences with professionals? Some kind of outside activity would presumably help. Is there anything he's interested in where he could volunteer?

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  • over 5 years ago in reply to Cassandro

    Hi Cassandra! Thanks for the reply! 

    He does accept and welcomed his diagnosis. He’s had social worker and support workers but he’s hated all of them, one came once and he refused to see them again afterwards. He refuses help from the GP for his depression. He had CBT but it didn’t help.

    He relays heavily on me for food etc, he’d rather go hungry than go to the shops to buy himself something. I know he has social anxiety, and is anxious in general, I know he’s depressed and lacks motivation. I get all that but he needs to help himself. I suggested registering on here earlier but he refused. Maybe it’s  embarrassment that stops him doing things. It’s frustrating!