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Aspergers can be tough, can't it?

Haythml

Hello im Martin.

Chairman of the award winning Peer Support Group www.pfgdoncaster.co.uk , author of www.mentallywell.co.uk , diagnosed aspergic, grower of huge strawberries and long time reader of this forum.

I was diagnosed in my early 20's, took a look at professional services and decided to handle it all myself until I was 37 ( 3 years ago).

3 years later I decided that was a waste of time and went back to my own self management, no offence to the statutory authorities but there wasn't anything they could do that was better than me being in charge.

I just want to say I do enjoy reading peoples stories on here, Aspergers is tough and and I've been cheered up so many times by reading this Forum.

All the Psychiatrists and Counsellors in the world couldn't pass on the knowledge I've picked up from you people.

Thanks.

Martin.

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  • Hi,

    I can't answer your questions, but one thing I have found helpful in the last few years when dealing with my son with Asperger's (and the rest of my family too, at times!) is the idea that "He is doing the best he can right now with what he knows".

    If you can remind yourself of that, you can forgive anything.  People on the Autistic Spectrum tend to need a whole lot of extra loving and acceptance from those they live with, if relationships of any sort are to survive, and the best of us get it wrong at times too!

    Sounds like your man is going through a tough patch right now, for reasons you are aware of.  So, my advice is to choose to overlook his ill-chosen comment, give him the space he needs, but reassure him you're still there for him. 

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  • Hi,

    I can't answer your questions, but one thing I have found helpful in the last few years when dealing with my son with Asperger's (and the rest of my family too, at times!) is the idea that "He is doing the best he can right now with what he knows".

    If you can remind yourself of that, you can forgive anything.  People on the Autistic Spectrum tend to need a whole lot of extra loving and acceptance from those they live with, if relationships of any sort are to survive, and the best of us get it wrong at times too!

    Sounds like your man is going through a tough patch right now, for reasons you are aware of.  So, my advice is to choose to overlook his ill-chosen comment, give him the space he needs, but reassure him you're still there for him. 

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