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Aspergers can be tough, can't it?

Haythml

Hello im Martin.

Chairman of the award winning Peer Support Group www.pfgdoncaster.co.uk , author of www.mentallywell.co.uk , diagnosed aspergic, grower of huge strawberries and long time reader of this forum.

I was diagnosed in my early 20's, took a look at professional services and decided to handle it all myself until I was 37 ( 3 years ago).

3 years later I decided that was a waste of time and went back to my own self management, no offence to the statutory authorities but there wasn't anything they could do that was better than me being in charge.

I just want to say I do enjoy reading peoples stories on here, Aspergers is tough and and I've been cheered up so many times by reading this Forum.

All the Psychiatrists and Counsellors in the world couldn't pass on the knowledge I've picked up from you people.

Thanks.

Martin.

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  • Hello,

    I am the partner of an 57 year old, high functioning aspberger man.

    we have been a couple fo 7 years, although we don't live togehter full time (which suits us both) and have had a good relationship (even though I don't get as much romance & thoughtfulness as I need..well, ya know!!!)

    I'm really strugling as he's just told me he no longer finds me atractive but still loves me as his partner and not in a brother/sister way and was completly shocked when I got very upset.

    He's now gone into a melt-down and won't speak to me.

    He was struggling beforehand as we were re-decorating his flat to accomodate visits from his step-daughter and grand-daughter, who he adores and say's he wants to visit, but I think he feels 'pushed into it' and un-settled.

    Before that, He had to change jobs, which was very difficult for both of us, but is now happy and settled where He is

    I've got serious health problems myself right now and his behaviour over this last year has caused me a severe deterioration in health.

    I am trying very hard to understand him. We hav'nt had intimacy for ages & I'm wondering if this last meltdown could be down to the changes he's making and that he is just angry with me for his perception that I am making him do it.

    Any advice please? I'm just backing off from him and not pushing any contact right now.

    Thanks

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  • Hello,

    I am the partner of an 57 year old, high functioning aspberger man.

    we have been a couple fo 7 years, although we don't live togehter full time (which suits us both) and have had a good relationship (even though I don't get as much romance & thoughtfulness as I need..well, ya know!!!)

    I'm really strugling as he's just told me he no longer finds me atractive but still loves me as his partner and not in a brother/sister way and was completly shocked when I got very upset.

    He's now gone into a melt-down and won't speak to me.

    He was struggling beforehand as we were re-decorating his flat to accomodate visits from his step-daughter and grand-daughter, who he adores and say's he wants to visit, but I think he feels 'pushed into it' and un-settled.

    Before that, He had to change jobs, which was very difficult for both of us, but is now happy and settled where He is

    I've got serious health problems myself right now and his behaviour over this last year has caused me a severe deterioration in health.

    I am trying very hard to understand him. We hav'nt had intimacy for ages & I'm wondering if this last meltdown could be down to the changes he's making and that he is just angry with me for his perception that I am making him do it.

    Any advice please? I'm just backing off from him and not pushing any contact right now.

    Thanks

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