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I have just had a diagnosis and feel quite confused

Sam B

Hello

I feel guilty writing this as the posts I have seen relate to parents very concerned about children and by comparison my worries are very small.  I feel a bit lost though with a recent diagnosis.  I have seen a psychiatrist for some time and have a diagnosis of a psychiatirc disorder.  The time before last I saw my psychiatrist he said I am also on the autistic spectrum.  I saw him again last week and argued with him about it but he pointed out my difficuties with relationships, black/white thinking, dislike of change, poor eye contact etc.  I am now thinking maybe he is right. Outwardly my life is successful - I have a good job etc - but it is a huge struggle.  I am finding it very hard to  get my head round this though and feel like I have become a lesser person or inferior.  It seems to be a label which is all negative and which you can't recover from.  Like I say, I appreciate my problems are very mild but I would love to hear from someone in a similar position.  Now he has said it about me I can see it in one of my children and my grandfather.  Thank you

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  • I can relate to the 'thoughts going faster than he can write' thing (or however it was put).

    And, I saw Tony Attwood give a talk a while ago where he mentioned something that may relate to this. But which seems to come at it from a completely different angle. He said that we, on the spectrum, seem not to see words and letters as, well, words and letters, but rather as 'shapes', and so, when writing, we have to concentrate so hard on getting the shape right that we can't also think about what it is we're writing.

    Or maybe, and I would say it seems this way for me, it's that our thoughts race ahead whilst our hands are still trying to form the correct shapes of the earlier words.

    I've learnt to slow my thoughts down when I write anything by hand, but I remember a time, and it still happens occasionally, where I'd read back what I'd written and there would whole paragraphs of text missing - and I could have sworn I wrote it, but evidently didn't.

    Typing seems to be easier, but it may just be that I'm able to type much faster than I can hand-write.

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  • I can relate to the 'thoughts going faster than he can write' thing (or however it was put).

    And, I saw Tony Attwood give a talk a while ago where he mentioned something that may relate to this. But which seems to come at it from a completely different angle. He said that we, on the spectrum, seem not to see words and letters as, well, words and letters, but rather as 'shapes', and so, when writing, we have to concentrate so hard on getting the shape right that we can't also think about what it is we're writing.

    Or maybe, and I would say it seems this way for me, it's that our thoughts race ahead whilst our hands are still trying to form the correct shapes of the earlier words.

    I've learnt to slow my thoughts down when I write anything by hand, but I remember a time, and it still happens occasionally, where I'd read back what I'd written and there would whole paragraphs of text missing - and I could have sworn I wrote it, but evidently didn't.

    Typing seems to be easier, but it may just be that I'm able to type much faster than I can hand-write.

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