new and looking for advice

hi i have a 10 year old daughter, she is having learning probs and is 4 years behind in her litracey and other areas, her spelling is the worse and got scored at minus 5 years. I have seen the gp and they were questioning high functioning autism / aspegers, the school have refered her to the ed psych (due to see her tommrow), speech and language and CAHMS both of thoses still waiting for an appointment.

im going to list the things that worry me

she asked for a doll for her 10th birthday (her sister grew out of dolls at about 6 or 7)

she has anger probs and usually takes it out on my 7 year old (she has adhd) by putting her hands round her neck

puts everything in her mouth etc rubber, paper , money lego bricks

pulls her hair out, picks her mole, bites skin off her fingers and they bleed

doesnt seem to feel a lot of pain

she has obessions with money and eastenders

she likes her own space and will spend all day in her room

she wont go anywhere without an adult

if i tell her off she will either try to run away and has even tryed jumping out of the window

she gets scared of things the most recent one is coaches and she said she isnt going on any school trips at all and will hide the letters (because of coach crash)

when my son was a baby she hated his crying and told me to shut him up, she mothers him a bit too much and used to get very angry if could hold him

she laughs when told off (im sure this is nerves)

 

thank you for listening sorry about the long post

 

Kerry