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savyb

Hi all.. 

This is the first I've posted, I'm new to here, after researching and coming to a brick wall thought I might best bet to get advice. 

So heres the story.. I'm 5 months pregnant with my first, But I have a history of Autism in my family. My younger brother, nephew and cousin. My cousin is 25 and is so bad hes in a home. I'm worried what are the chances of my child having Autism???

but I to suffer, at the age of 18 I was diagnosed with dyslexia and dyspraxia after struggling through school then to college was where I was diagnosed. 

I wonder if there are other undiagnosed illness that I may have. I struggle day to day, and think back to my child hood and when I read back my school reports, realise I may have had selective mutism in my younger years which has resulted me with these conditions I suffer with now. I was always a troubled child and very quiet and withdrawn. 

I now find it hard to be on my own, I struggle to get to place to place on my own, e.g if I had to use the bus or walk somewhere, well its something I just wouldn't do, I would make sure I would have some one with me at all times to make me feel safe. I can't even walk to the shop on my own to do my weekly shopping I have to have my husband with me at all times. I just feel so un independent. When my husband isn't around I stay in doors at all times. This has caused me a lot of depression. 

It has got so bad that my university degree is struggling, I will not attend unless its the days my husband is in, as he attends partly the same course as me. This has been going on for such a long time now and have missed endless opportunities because of it. I have no idea if its part of mental illness I haven't been diagnosed with like autism. I worry for my unborn child and if all these could effect him when hes born and possibly be autistic and go undiagnosed. 

I'm just not sure where to turn for advice and information on these matters, and thought I would share my problem here.

I hope you can understand my situation as I've tried my best to explain as much as I could.  

Thank you, 

Sam  

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  • Sam,

    I'm Aspergers and my two children are aged 20 and 19.

    Firstly I have to say the worrying about your unborn child is completely normal!  You are a whirling dervish of hormones and you are showing yourself to be a good mum already by being concerned for your child.  Seriously though, your baby is lucky to have you care/love/worry so much for them already. 

    Also, your concerns about your child having the difficulties you had means you will watch out for them and if necessary do something to improve the situation for your child.  This is years in the future so I would try and relax as much as you can for now. 

    Look after yourself, eat well, try to sleep well and be happy.

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  • Sam,

    I'm Aspergers and my two children are aged 20 and 19.

    Firstly I have to say the worrying about your unborn child is completely normal!  You are a whirling dervish of hormones and you are showing yourself to be a good mum already by being concerned for your child.  Seriously though, your baby is lucky to have you care/love/worry so much for them already. 

    Also, your concerns about your child having the difficulties you had means you will watch out for them and if necessary do something to improve the situation for your child.  This is years in the future so I would try and relax as much as you can for now. 

    Look after yourself, eat well, try to sleep well and be happy.

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