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savyb

Hi all.. 

This is the first I've posted, I'm new to here, after researching and coming to a brick wall thought I might best bet to get advice. 

So heres the story.. I'm 5 months pregnant with my first, But I have a history of Autism in my family. My younger brother, nephew and cousin. My cousin is 25 and is so bad hes in a home. I'm worried what are the chances of my child having Autism???

but I to suffer, at the age of 18 I was diagnosed with dyslexia and dyspraxia after struggling through school then to college was where I was diagnosed. 

I wonder if there are other undiagnosed illness that I may have. I struggle day to day, and think back to my child hood and when I read back my school reports, realise I may have had selective mutism in my younger years which has resulted me with these conditions I suffer with now. I was always a troubled child and very quiet and withdrawn. 

I now find it hard to be on my own, I struggle to get to place to place on my own, e.g if I had to use the bus or walk somewhere, well its something I just wouldn't do, I would make sure I would have some one with me at all times to make me feel safe. I can't even walk to the shop on my own to do my weekly shopping I have to have my husband with me at all times. I just feel so un independent. When my husband isn't around I stay in doors at all times. This has caused me a lot of depression. 

It has got so bad that my university degree is struggling, I will not attend unless its the days my husband is in, as he attends partly the same course as me. This has been going on for such a long time now and have missed endless opportunities because of it. I have no idea if its part of mental illness I haven't been diagnosed with like autism. I worry for my unborn child and if all these could effect him when hes born and possibly be autistic and go undiagnosed. 

I'm just not sure where to turn for advice and information on these matters, and thought I would share my problem here.

I hope you can understand my situation as I've tried my best to explain as much as I could.  

Thank you, 

Sam  

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  • Hiya, Thanks for replying back to me. 

    Just wanted to say that I didn't mean for me to say Autism is a mental illness, my lack of ability to explain properly, I hope I've not offended any one by using these terms. I understand its a condition, thats a better what of putting things thanks.

    My brother 18 and nephew 7 are great kids, I love them to bits. They are fantastic you ask them anything to do with games and they will talk and talk to you for hours none stop. My brother loves magic, you ask about card tricks, magics tricks, he will stand and show every single one hes knows time and time over. Once he starts going theres no stopping him. From being with them and being quite close, I do have some basic understanding about their way of thinking. Both weren't diagnosed till later on I think was about 2-3 years ago and funny enough were both around the same time. 

    As for me and my silly worries, Its what I do, its my nature (virgo)
    I'm not so much concerned about if my child will have autism, my love for my child in unconditional all ready and nothing would change that, even if he had extra fingers, toes or arms, he will still be beautiful and such a gift no matter what.. 

    My major concern is if he would to go undiagnosed till later in life or at all if he were to have autism. For instance in a standard state school my brother went to the kids there were evil. He was bullied terribly, he stuck it out for a while then he was put in another similar school and things happened again. He wasn't diagnosed till after he left. This is what worries me, that my child wont be offered the right help and understanding and struggle.

    I went through my childhood withdrawn, unhappy and lonely, I would hate for that to happen to my child, as a result if he had Autism and wasn't diagnosed properly and offered the right support. I just want to be best prepared for him as much a possible, I know I shouldn't be worrying hes not even born yet, but I suppose thats what mothers do best. 
     
    I hope that explains things better to what I mean.

    Thank you for your reply
    Kind Regards

    Sam  

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  • Hiya, Thanks for replying back to me. 

    Just wanted to say that I didn't mean for me to say Autism is a mental illness, my lack of ability to explain properly, I hope I've not offended any one by using these terms. I understand its a condition, thats a better what of putting things thanks.

    My brother 18 and nephew 7 are great kids, I love them to bits. They are fantastic you ask them anything to do with games and they will talk and talk to you for hours none stop. My brother loves magic, you ask about card tricks, magics tricks, he will stand and show every single one hes knows time and time over. Once he starts going theres no stopping him. From being with them and being quite close, I do have some basic understanding about their way of thinking. Both weren't diagnosed till later on I think was about 2-3 years ago and funny enough were both around the same time. 

    As for me and my silly worries, Its what I do, its my nature (virgo)
    I'm not so much concerned about if my child will have autism, my love for my child in unconditional all ready and nothing would change that, even if he had extra fingers, toes or arms, he will still be beautiful and such a gift no matter what.. 

    My major concern is if he would to go undiagnosed till later in life or at all if he were to have autism. For instance in a standard state school my brother went to the kids there were evil. He was bullied terribly, he stuck it out for a while then he was put in another similar school and things happened again. He wasn't diagnosed till after he left. This is what worries me, that my child wont be offered the right help and understanding and struggle.

    I went through my childhood withdrawn, unhappy and lonely, I would hate for that to happen to my child, as a result if he had Autism and wasn't diagnosed properly and offered the right support. I just want to be best prepared for him as much a possible, I know I shouldn't be worrying hes not even born yet, but I suppose thats what mothers do best. 
     
    I hope that explains things better to what I mean.

    Thank you for your reply
    Kind Regards

    Sam  

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