$ year old just diagnosed with autism

I don't think the meant anything negative by it. 

Hi Munchybag 

We've not had an official diagnosis yet but an educational psychologist has told us she believes it is asd and adhd. For me it was relief as there was an explanation. Also maybe I'm not a "bad mum" (first thought is always - what am I doing wrong... other peoples children aren't doing this) my son respond to things differently. It is not that other pareenta are "better"

My mum was gutted at first but I spoke to her about how I felt and maybe this will help you too. Your son is exactly the same person. He is still your awesome little boy. But now, maybe, you will get more help for the times he may need it in school (even just a way of taking a different approach with him) you will be able to try different things when he responds differently from what other children might do. You will learn what things may be too much for him and work around that. In essence he is still your son but now some, and I am not saying all, of the difficult situations you may have had have a chance of improving. 

For me it is realising when he starts shouting and getting angry because a toy doesn't do what he thinks it should... telling him off for shouting and getting angry doesn't work. Or saying he will go on a time out. But today when it happened his dad said, why don't we do a tally of al the times (minecraft) zombie goes in the lava and when he doesn't. Then his frustration at it not "working" became a game. Not saying that will work every time but as a parent my initial response it to tell him not to be shouting and getting angry... now I need to understand why he is at the time. And maybe talk about how we can respond differently when he has calmed down

munchybug said:

Hi everyone.

We have just had our son(4 next week) diagnosed with autism this afternoon. A little shell shocked to say the least! no doubt there are many people who have been through this same scenario. Our view is that our son gets whatever he needs to help him through this!

This may more be one of those meaning otherwise state of affairs, but is it not more the case that you are going to make sure that your son gets whatever he needs to help him 'get-along-with' being autistic - rather than as such getting 'through' it; possibly?

Hi my 6 year old daughter was diagnosed with autism last week,even though we kinda knew she had it was still heartbreaker when we got the diagnosis, its a relief though to finally know why she is the way she is and acts the way she does.