My son asked me if he was autistic today...

He's been told there's 'something wrong with him' by nasty kids in the past, and he is different from other kids. 

Really sweet, a bit awkward in terms of understanding personal boundaries (very touchy / feely, sometimes overwhelmingly so, I just think he loves physical contact), his speech is always the clearest and he repeats incorrect verbal formations until the cows come home. Literally spent last two years starting every sentence with 'Even...', and has only just stopped doing this, though it sometimes sneaks in.

We had him assessed by educational psychologist when he was in Y3 as he was struggling to get to grips with maths and english, and she diagnosed 'specific speech impairment', which explains the language processing issues.

His handwriting is terrible, but he works reasonably well when he's typing on word processor, and while his grades aren't amazing, he's keeping up with the average, albeit with huge input from us during homework. 

He still struggles socially, not picking up people's cues, but he is generally liked as he is really sweet, and the older years especiaally seem to make a fuss of him.

He ran his finger over a sharp blade and cut himself at hockey, and a dad who was watching asked him if he had autism. The dad in question has an autistic son. He came home and asked me what autism was, and whether he might have it, and I told him that we'd had him assessed and no one had ever suggested he did.

Then this aft, he came in and asked again, after misjudging a situation where a group of boys were goofing around - he thought they were play-fighting and joined in! 

I explained about physical boundaries and he nodded, but I can never tell if he's even in control of his impulses. I don't know if he is a tiny bit on the spectrum, what that means, what support I could be giving him,

or whether he's just a sweet, other-worldly, quite immature child for his age?

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  • Former Member
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    It is not possible to make a diagnosis via these discussions. Ferret's opinion is an opinion but it does not rule it out and even the Ed Psych's opinion is only an opinion. It is quite possible for an Ed Psych to miss autism - you really need to see a specialist who can really sort the wheat from the chaff. Autism is not easy to accurately diagnose and there are lots of forum members here who have had a series of different diagnoses before finding one that is actually usefully correct.

    Having said all of that, he wouldn't need a diagnosis unless he had a significant problem and needed special treatment (by the school or by mental health specialists) Autism isn't a problem unless he is unable to cope with either a) any social environment or b) if the social situation that he finds himself in is intolerant of people who are different. I managed more or less until I found myself with a company that was basically incompatible with autistic people. I had been an odd child and had various siutations over the years but did not need a diagnosis until I was 56. In hindsight, it makes sense of a lot of things that happened over the years but I didn't need treatment until that point. It would have been good to have been aware of my differences before then though so I would suggest that you read up on Aspergers (Tony Attwood's book is a good place to start) and tell him that being different isn't necessarily a problem.

    All of the above comes with a big caveat to say that I have no idea if he has autistic traits but I cannot say that he doesn't (I hope that makes sense?)

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  • Former Member
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    It is not possible to make a diagnosis via these discussions. Ferret's opinion is an opinion but it does not rule it out and even the Ed Psych's opinion is only an opinion. It is quite possible for an Ed Psych to miss autism - you really need to see a specialist who can really sort the wheat from the chaff. Autism is not easy to accurately diagnose and there are lots of forum members here who have had a series of different diagnoses before finding one that is actually usefully correct.

    Having said all of that, he wouldn't need a diagnosis unless he had a significant problem and needed special treatment (by the school or by mental health specialists) Autism isn't a problem unless he is unable to cope with either a) any social environment or b) if the social situation that he finds himself in is intolerant of people who are different. I managed more or less until I found myself with a company that was basically incompatible with autistic people. I had been an odd child and had various siutations over the years but did not need a diagnosis until I was 56. In hindsight, it makes sense of a lot of things that happened over the years but I didn't need treatment until that point. It would have been good to have been aware of my differences before then though so I would suggest that you read up on Aspergers (Tony Attwood's book is a good place to start) and tell him that being different isn't necessarily a problem.

    All of the above comes with a big caveat to say that I have no idea if he has autistic traits but I cannot say that he doesn't (I hope that makes sense?)

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