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rooroos

Hi, i'm new here. :)

A very proud mum to my only child, a beautiful 5yr old boy. 

However, i've noticed a few odd behaviours, that, as he is an only child, I have nothing to compare to. I decided to jot a few observations down, and i'm now a little concerned, but am I just being a bit paranoid?

Dislike of loud, unexpected noises; Panics when parking sensors go off in car

At cinema, following announcement to be quiet, he refused to speak/ whisper for duration of film.

Obsession with numbers/ time/ alphabet

Obsession with cars/ space/ certain games (bad piggies/ angry birds)

Angry/ Upset frustration when playing certain games.

Inability to lose at games like snakes and ladders etc.

Constant stream of Questions/ chattering

Fidgeting.

Doesn’t like being touched/ hugged by other kids at school, possibly adult strangers, but is loving with parents, people he knows and favourite soft toys.

Odd conversation style- lacks emotion??

Repeats- ver batim, complicated sentences, but cannot elaborate on them.

Short one-word answers to questions like “what did you do at school”, nothing or can’t remember.

“did you have a good day at school” yes, ok, fine

Photographic-like memory

Physically a bit clumsy- not as confident as other kids

Stands on outside of groups looking on, instead of engaging in play sometimes- always been like that

Likes routine

Impeccable behaviour- very little tantrums, rarely sad/ upset/ crying.

Sees potential ‘bullies’ as friends.

Excellent reading skills, less imaginative creatively.

Obviously, I've observed him react to things and put is down to him just being a child, but a younger cousin on his dad's side is severely autisic and I'm putting 2+2 together and thinking maybe he is on the spectrum somewhere? It makes no difference to me if he is or not, but i'd like to know to enable me to help him as best i can in the future, if he is. :)

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  • Yep, that's true, doesn't usually seem to be a quick process to get anyone assessed. It may be difficult to convince a doctor that he should have an assessment though without any real trouble, I guess. Trouble could also be behavioural isses obviously, not just learning reading, writing and maths, but from what you say he doesn't really show anything of that sort (which does not exclude ASD, especially for girls it may actually be the major reason why it doesn't get picked up).

    I've heard that thing about kids having no friends to play with from quite a few people with their first child and later a second one seems to be much better at that. Not saying that this may not be a sign of autism in your son but it makes me wonder if the first child just doesn't have as much chance to practise it.

    Perhaps you can find a few other kids (and parents) that visit each other now and then so he gets chance to get to know them when the approaching a group barrier isn't there? Been visiting friends in Norway a few weeks ago and their school has some things that seemed surprising to me and I'm still not sure what to think about it but some things seemed very useful. They don't want children to have a best friend in school (as in 'the only other kid I play with', I assume), so nobody gets excluded. They teach kids how to join a group: you have to ask if it's o.k. to play with them and they have to say 'yes', and they also teach them what you could then say to start with. Think being an adult I couldn't cope with this, I can't do fake politeness, but perhaps for children this isn't all that bad, don't know really (it may also be something to do with Norwegian mentality which is a bit different from the British one from that point of view, pleasantly so in my opinion but perhaps they want to prepare their folks for surviving globally). And they create small groups of kids that aren't doing much together usually (they may not even be in the same class) and then they invite each other now and then for an afternoon. It's not like a fancy birthday party, just maybe doing some handicraft, a treassure hunt, making music, making and eating food... all in all things where doing it together is what matters, not competition. Thought that sounded like a good idea. Guess knowing other kids would also help to leave the ones that aren't nice to him alone.

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  • Yep, that's true, doesn't usually seem to be a quick process to get anyone assessed. It may be difficult to convince a doctor that he should have an assessment though without any real trouble, I guess. Trouble could also be behavioural isses obviously, not just learning reading, writing and maths, but from what you say he doesn't really show anything of that sort (which does not exclude ASD, especially for girls it may actually be the major reason why it doesn't get picked up).

    I've heard that thing about kids having no friends to play with from quite a few people with their first child and later a second one seems to be much better at that. Not saying that this may not be a sign of autism in your son but it makes me wonder if the first child just doesn't have as much chance to practise it.

    Perhaps you can find a few other kids (and parents) that visit each other now and then so he gets chance to get to know them when the approaching a group barrier isn't there? Been visiting friends in Norway a few weeks ago and their school has some things that seemed surprising to me and I'm still not sure what to think about it but some things seemed very useful. They don't want children to have a best friend in school (as in 'the only other kid I play with', I assume), so nobody gets excluded. They teach kids how to join a group: you have to ask if it's o.k. to play with them and they have to say 'yes', and they also teach them what you could then say to start with. Think being an adult I couldn't cope with this, I can't do fake politeness, but perhaps for children this isn't all that bad, don't know really (it may also be something to do with Norwegian mentality which is a bit different from the British one from that point of view, pleasantly so in my opinion but perhaps they want to prepare their folks for surviving globally). And they create small groups of kids that aren't doing much together usually (they may not even be in the same class) and then they invite each other now and then for an afternoon. It's not like a fancy birthday party, just maybe doing some handicraft, a treassure hunt, making music, making and eating food... all in all things where doing it together is what matters, not competition. Thought that sounded like a good idea. Guess knowing other kids would also help to leave the ones that aren't nice to him alone.

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