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Hi, an emotional mummy here

Daisysmummy

Hello, I am new here. My baby girl is just over 2 and a half years old & just yesterday she had her first meeting with a pediatrician. He confirmed my fears about her not being the same as other children her age and said she is ASD. She cannot talk well & gets upset easily. He said she is not like other children and she does have some problems not just the one. I thought this all along but to hear somebody tell you things about your daughter is a real shock. I really thought that he would tell me she was ok just a bit behind. I know deep down and have for a year that somethings up but I am just feeling so bad right now.

I feel like I am screaming inside and I am frightened for her and for us. I keep wondering if I did something, if its my fault.

Is it normal to feel this way. The guillt of telling her off when she was having off days? 

I'm very tearful & I am sorry to come here and pester you lot I just don't know who else to talk to.

I want to stop this and get positive and help her. The doctor said to get her some cards to communicate and an egg timer to help her know that change is coming. 

Can anyone point me in the right direction? 

I really need a kick up the bum to quit feeling sorry for her/me and realise Nothing has changed, only a label.

Thanks for listening, Lin x

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  • Hi there.

    My son was a bit older when he was diagnosed, but we had fun together creating some pictures to help him with things like toileting, which he was dreadful at. We took pictures together of the toilet, the paper, the flush, the sink, the soap, the towel and then put them in a strip on the computer and printed them out.

    Your daughter's needs might be different, but I bet you could still do some things together - which all help with forming a good relationship, something I didn't have with him for a good while.

    And yes, I felt guilt and wondered for ages what I'd done (perhaps when pregnant) to get this. I was, and still am sometimes scared about the future for him. But most of the time now it works out ok and he's a great kid. Just different.

    All the best!

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  • Hi there.

    My son was a bit older when he was diagnosed, but we had fun together creating some pictures to help him with things like toileting, which he was dreadful at. We took pictures together of the toilet, the paper, the flush, the sink, the soap, the towel and then put them in a strip on the computer and printed them out.

    Your daughter's needs might be different, but I bet you could still do some things together - which all help with forming a good relationship, something I didn't have with him for a good while.

    And yes, I felt guilt and wondered for ages what I'd done (perhaps when pregnant) to get this. I was, and still am sometimes scared about the future for him. But most of the time now it works out ok and he's a great kid. Just different.

    All the best!

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